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#parentingscoop is back!
I am thrilled to have Becki from The Mum from Brum featuring on #parentingscoop today. I would love for you to pop over to her blog and say hi!
#parentingscoop has had a bit of a relaunch this year, the questions have been revised and I chuffed to have some incredible bloggers lined up for the next few months.
So without further ado, I will hand you over to the lovely Becki from The Mum from Brum …
Bio – The Mum from Brum
Hi I’m Becki, a 30 year old Brummie now living in Northampton with my Hubby and our 3 year old son, X.
I’m a SAHM who loves photography, writing and singing along (badly) to musical theatre show tunes while I’m cooking.
I blog over at The Mum from Brum: www.themumfrombrum.co.uk
Tell us about you when you are not in ‘mummy mode’
I love books; I didn’t used to so much read books as devour them! But it’s difficult to get chance since becoming a Mum.
My dream non-mummy day would consist of a long lie in, lots of tea and a Jane Austen novel in bed, before some solo shopping then a leisurely lunch with the Hubby and a trip to the theatre.
Up until I had X, I’d worked in a theatre for a long while, and I desperately miss it!
Tell us about your pregnancy.
I knew I was pregnant before I missed a period.
We’d only just started trying so I know we were very lucky to catch so quickly. The morning sickness quickly turned into all day every day sickness, and by 8 weeks pregnant I was too ill to work.
When I had my first scan at 12 weeks I was so shattered from lack of food I couldn’t make out X on the screen! At the same scan they thought I’d had a twin pregnancy, only to discover that I actually had an 8cm cyst on my left ovary (it was a Dermoid, or Mature Cystic Teratoma if you fancy a Google, but they’re super weird, I warn you!) and there was a chance that if it grew I would have to have surgery while pregnant.
My poor mother was in the waiting room watching all these doctors coming in and out of the scan room in a rush – I sent Hubby out to explain what was going on! The cyst meant loads of extra appointments and scans – which meant I got to see X loads of times throughout the pregnancy! I eventually had the cyst removed a year and a half later.
Where did you give birth? Did you have any complications?
I gave birth at the same hospital I was born in! Sadly, we had a fairly traumatic birth – my waters broke at 11pm on Monday without any contractions, and X was born, back to back, with forceps after a failed epidural, at 9pm on Tuesday.
I’d had the sintocin drip which took my contractions from 3 in 10 to 5 in 10, each lasting almost 2 minutes. When they came to site the epidural I was only getting a break of a few seconds between each one. I was given half an hour to get him out or I was going for a cesarean because his heart rate kept dropping and I was beyond exhausted – I hadn’t slept since Sunday night and it was now 8.30pm on Tuesday!
Me and a wonderful Doctor who had the forceps got him out – I really enjoyed pushing! I’d felt like a spectator for most of the labour, but now I got to do something! X was fine, APGAR scores of 9. I had a Postpartum Haemorrhage from a tear which took nearly an hour to stitch up.
What were the first few weeks like with a newborn?
Chaos. Utter chaos! We had a nightmare with breastfeeding as X wasn’t latching, so there were a lot of hours spent in tears and frantically googling how to bottle feed! My lovely Mum took some time off so that I didn’t have to spend the first few days of Hubby being back at work alone. We started to get into a rhythm, but to be honest it was mostly us fumbling around in the confusion of sleep deprivation.
Do you have any advice for new parents?
Don’t expect to get anything done. You need to spend that first few weeks holed up somewhere with easy to defrost pre-made food and a lot of tea. Everything can be pretty overwhelming but don’t be afraid to let that stress come out as tears!! A good cry can really help when you’re having a bad day. And never be afraid to ask for help – being a new parent is one of the steepest learning curves you will ever be on, and there is zero shame in being a beginner! Oh, and everything is a phase – the good and the bad!
What is your favourite thing about being a parent?
There is nothing more wonderful than having your child snuggle into you. X is 3 now, and while I miss him falling asleep in my arms, there’s nothing like him throwing his arms around me when he’s not seen me for five minutes and he’s missed me!
What is your funniest parenting story
As a baby, X was pretty sicky, our house was permanently full of airers drying out muslins. When he was about 4 months old, we thought we were past the worst of the milky spitup. So I did the usual parenty thing of lifting him up into the air to make him laugh. Which was great. Until he decided to throw up just as he reached the highest point. Of course, it went EVERYWHERE, including in my mouth. I couldn’t decide whether to laugh or cry…
Thanks so much Becki! Lovely to have you on the blog. I can certainly relate to the reading, I wish I had more time to relax with a good book.
You can find The Mum from Brum being social here, pop over and say hi:
- web: www.themumfrombrum.co.uk
- facebook: www.facebook.com/themumfrombrum
- twitter: www.twitter.com/_mumbrum
- instagram: www.instagram.com/_mumbrum
If you would like to take part in #parentingscoop then leave me a comment below, or email email@example.com. We would love to have you on the blog.
After the success of baking Valentine’s biscuits last week, next we decided to try our hand at some Valentine’s crafts for children!
We ended up doing two different crafts, because we ended up cutting out too many hearts.
So today we are going to give you two for the price of one – bargain eh?
Valentine’s Crafts for Children – the lovable Caterpillar!
First up is our initial activity of making a caterpillar out of love hearts.
What do you need:
- love heart cookie cutter (optional for those, like me, who cannot draw lovehearts that are symmetrical!)
- Googly eyes (the most exciting thing in our craft box according to the kids!)
How do you do it?
My monkeys are only four, so they definitely needed a bit of assistance with this one. The best way to start, was to have a piece of card and draw a straight line across the middle of the page. This meant they knew where to stick the love hearts and made everyones lives a lot easier – especially control freak mummy!
Next up you need to cut out the card. Now, as I said above, I am useless at making symmetrical hearts. Drawing is not a talent that I have! So we cheated, and dug out the love heart cookie cutter that we used for the biscuits last week. We used these to draw around, and then cut the love hearts out. All the love hearts were the same shape and that made mummy very happy, it was strangely satisfying! The kids, of course, could not care less if the hearts were the same shape or not!
The boys then got the glue stick and put the glue along the line that we had drawn earlier. They then stuck the hearts all in a row, to make the caterpillar body.
Then they stuck a heart above the line, at the end of the row to make a head. They stuck on some googly eyes – best bit of the whole process, I am not sure what it is about googly eyes that make them so much fun! We then used the pens to draw legs, a mouth and a little nose – nose not compulsory unless you are four and you insist because otherwise the caterpillar will not be able to smell!
We then cut out teeny little hearts to use as the caterpillar antlers.
Valentine’s Crafts for Children – the love heart wreath
Once our caterpillar was made, the boys pointed out that we still had tons of love hearts left over. I had seriously underestimated how many we would need.
So we got more card and cut out a circle. I actually used a plate to draw around as again my circulars are usually more on the oval side!
We then cut out the inside of the circle, then stuck the love hearts on with glue.
The wreath is not hung up in our window and certainly brightens the place up. Everything seems so dull since we took the Christmas decorations down.
I would love to know if you are doing any valentine’s crafts for children. I would love to get more inspiration to try out other crafts this weekend, tag me on social media or leave me a comment below this post.
I was recently nominated for the rocking motherhood tag from a friend of mine Laura. Laura blogs over at Five Little Doves and if you have not checked out her blog then please pop over and say hi!
After my nomination I had to think about ten ways I have been rocking motherhood. I wracked my brains and came up with a blank!! I am really not good at selling myself.
Also, this motherhood malarky isn’t exactly the easy gig that I had anticipated. I thought it would be all snuggling up on the sofa reading stories. In reality it is more chasing naked boys around the house, trying to beg them to get dressed because we are going to be late for kindergarten … again!!!!!
However, a chat with my own mum soon set me straight. So, here goes…
Ten Ways I am Rocking Motherhood
I am a cuddly person.
I am actually one of those annoying overly ‘huggy’ people.
This, however, does have its good sides. I am always open to cuddles from the boys. When they are hurt, when they are poorly, when they have done well or just because it is a Tuesday. You get the drift. I am always there with my arms open should they need it.
I am good at making up animal stories.
One night I thought it would be fun to ditch the books and make up stories about the 100 cuddly toys that adorn the boys’ beds.
It has grown from there and now each animal has its own voice and personality. From Crazy Cat, who is always hyper and getting into trouble, to Bear who is softly spoken and kind.
The boys love it.
I am trying very hard to bring them up as open-minded as possible. It would truly horrify me to think that they judged someone for their sexual orientation or the colour of their skin.
I want them to grow up respecting people.
Also, I have tried my hardest to let them embrace who they are! I truly don’t care what they grow up to be, so long as they are happy, healthy and kind.
Never once have I tried to stop them with playing with a toy because it is pink. I really don’t think kids should be put into boxes.
Regardless of all of this though, they have both been very stereotypical boys, they are only interested in vehicles and Star Wars!
Patience… I am not so sure about this one. However my parents said I should include it.
They think I am very patient with the kids – but I definitely have my moments!
I am not afraid to join in with their role play games and have been known to be a little silly. It is not the first time that I have been in charge of flying the Millennium Falcon (the sofa), or had to bat away the sharks from our pirate ship (the bed).
That said these days the boys are playing more and more on their own. They ask me to join in less and sometimes say no adults allowed, which makes me a bit sad.
If anyone needs me I will be building my own fort in my bedroom…..
I am not the best cook. The cooking usually falls to the hubby in our house.
However, baking is a different story.
I am not Mary Berry and I certainly won’t be able to compete with some of the incredibly talented food bloggers out there. But when it comes to baking, as far as my kids are concerned, I am the bomb. Pancakes, chocolate cake, brownies, biscuits and scones can all be rustled up without too much of a fuss. It is a great way to spend time with the kids on a rainy day.
I love my kids more than anything else in the world. My heart aches at the thought of them being sad. It truly hurts when I hear they have had a bad day.
I worry endlessly about if they are ok, especially when they are sick. I would truly do anything for them, and often look at them and wonder how on earth we managed to make them.
I fight with every instinct not to be the jumpy mum.
I know you need to wait when they fall to see what they do. I have to fight everything I have inside me not to mollycoddle them.
And it is really really hard! I want to wrap them in cotton wool and protect them from the world.
If I had my way I would be with them 100% of the time, every second of every day. But I know that it is good for them to be at kindergarten. Good for their social skills and good for them to not have me around all the time.
I am not perfect. Ok, you are probably wondering why that makes me rock motherhood. But here is the thing, I know I am only human. I am also not afraid to tell them I am wrong or I am sorry.
If I tell them something and then realise I wasn’t right, I let them know. I apologise. And, I think that is important.
Everyone has their good points and bad points. I think it is important to recognise that in yourself. It is important to not beat yourself up about it as well (which is a habit of mine which I am trying not to pass on).
I am a twin mummy!
I pushed two babies out at the same time – and that is no joke as they both tried to come out at the same time and got their heads stuck in the birth canal!
Since then, I have cared for two babies, two toddlers and now two preschoolers. And the strangest thing is, when people say to me that must be so hard, I don’t think like that. I see so many positives, they definitely outweigh the hard times.
So there you have it, I am not the best mum in the world but I certainly try my hardest!
I nominate the lovely Kelly from www.kellyallenwriter.com to take on the challenge.
We have added #capturingtheday to #MySundayPhoto hosted by Darren at Photalife
Here is my #capturingtheday / #mysundayphoto image for this week.
Thanks for everyone who took part!
Thanks so much to @mamaedenandme, @tammymumuk, @rawchildhood and @betty_and_barnaby
Pop over to Life Is Knutts to see Gemma’s featured images for this week.