I am really excited to have some brilliant bloggers lined up for #parentingscoop over the next few months! I am thrilled to have Jemma from Mayflower Blogs telling us all about her parenting journey today. Please pop over to her blog and say hi.
So let me pass you over to Jemma as she shares her story with us.
Bio – Jemma at Mayflower Blogs
I’m primarily a parenting and lifestyle blogger from Kent. But, originally started off as a Mental Health and Miscarriage Awareness blogger – something I still actively involve myself in.
I am 30 (almost 31 but we won’t talk too much about that), and I’m a stay at home Mum to my Son, Kye (7) and my Daughter, Olivia-May (3.5). I’m married to my husband Keiron. We’ve been together 12 years, married for almost 8 of those, and we’ve known each other since we were both 7.
Tell us about you when you are not in ‘mummy mode’
I’m always in Mummy mode!
I feel like whenever I’m with them, without them, when they’re in bed etc, I always think about them and being a SAHM (Stay At Home Mum) means everything I do is about them or for them!
On the rare occasion my mind lets me think about something other than the kids, I’m obviously a blogger. So my mind is taken up on those subjects only really!
Tell us about your pregnancy / pregnancies
I fell pregnant with Kye (7), in April 2009. As I was in the middle of planning my upcoming wedding, it was a little bit of a shock! I was 13 weeks pregnant with Kye when I got married to my husband, and thankfully the morning sickness held off for that day!
I fell pregnant three more times after having Kye, and suffered three recurrent miscarriages over the course of two years, before finally falling pregnant with our rainbow baby Olivia (now 3 and a half) on Christmas Day evening in 2012.
Where did you give birth? Did you have any complications?
I gave birth to both Kye and Olivia in our local hospital (QEQM in Margate, Kent). Kye came the day after his due date, after a 36 hour labour, pethadine and gas and air. No complications, although the pethadine was forced on me a little, and he ended up really sleepy for days, not crying really and not feeding well.
Once the side effects from the drugs had worn off (and I’d sworn to never have it again with and possible subsequent labours) he found his voice and began the sleepless nights we’d imagined we’d have.
Olivia came 9 days overdue, a day before I was due to have my induction. My waters went at home and they had meconium in them, which put paid to my plan of having a water birth.
I was strapped to the monitor, but, still determined to be in control of this labour, and having practised Hypnobirthing for months, I put my breathing techniques into practice, only needing gas and air towards the end and to push.
Her labour was 4 hours active, with half an hour pushing, and aside from some mucous on her chest and some issues initially with feeding, the meconium didn’t give us any major complications, and we were still allowed home within 24 hours.
What were the first few weeks like with a newborn?
The first few weeks with Kye were new. Our first baby, we had very little idea what we were doing, but we settled well after a couple of weeks. Lots of visitors came to see us (that always happens doesn’t it – then you don’t see anyone after the novelty has worn off).
The first few weeks with Olivia were difficult. Having two kids to deal with rather than the one, meant looking after myself became difficult, and, with nursery runs to add into the newborn life I was exhausted.
Once I worked out how to juggle it all however, it became normal and easier.
Do you have any advice for new parents?
My advice for new parents is, do what you think is right.
Obviously take others advice on board, but don’t feel rail-roaded into doing things you’re not comfortable with.
At the end of the day, you’re going to have to deal with your baby every single day. So trying to make everyone happy and follow everyone’s advice may overwhelm you and not make you happy. Which is what having a newborn is supposed to do. Make you happy.
What is your favourite thing about being a parent?
My favourite thing about being a parent is having unconditional, reciprocated, never-ending, love.
I love feeling loved, and loving them in return.
I love doing everything in my power to make them happy and feel safe and secure. And, I feel I was put on this earth to be a Mummy, so doing my very best by the children fills me with the most amount of happiness.
What is your funniest parenting story
I have SO many funny parenting stories! Watching one of the kids do an explosive poo as a baby. Then watching my husband have to deal with the aftermath has to be up there with one of the best things I’ve witnessed.
They’re always coming out with funny stories, made up jokes, and they’re both super-quirky. They are always making us crack up with their little personalities.
Thanks you so much for joining us Jemma! Thank you for sharing your story with us and talking about your pregnancy journey.
I always love the funny stories and made up jokes too, such a lovely part of parenting.
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