There is nothing worse than being told that your child is sick. At that moment it feels like it’s the end of the world as you know it.
It’s so overwhelming and you might think that you won’t be able to cope with looking after them.
The amount of help available to you is huge, you don’t have to do it alone and you can certainly live a normal life. Although it will take a while to adjust, things will get back to the way they were eventually. Here are a few ways that you can tackle those first few difficult months.
The natural reaction in a situation like this is obviously going to be stress. There’s no way that you can avoid worrying about your child. But you need to remember that they are probably a lot more scared and worried than you are.
They will be looking to you for security and safety and if you are visibly worried it will make them feel a lot worse. Knowing that they are feeling anxious about the situation will only exacerbate your bad feeling and the whole thing will become a lot worse.
To combat stress, you need to make sure that you have the support of people around you. Trying to take everything on yourself is impossible and it won’t do your child any favours.
A lot of parents often feel guilt in these situations and want to fix everything alone. It will only make the situation worse. There is no shame in asking for help. Family and friends will be there for you, but you should also keep your GP at hand, being able to ask them questions will help put your mind at ease.
Take Care Of Yourself
In a time like this, you’ll tend to forget about yourself. Things like healthy eating and exercising seem completely irrelevant. Your focus is all on taking care of your child.
But you need to take care of yourself as well. If you aren’t eating or sleeping properly then you won’t be yourself. Children are very perceptive and they will pick up on these changes.
That will only create more anxiety.
You also won’t be able to take care of them as effectively if your tank is running on empty.
Help Your Child Understand
One of the biggest challenges is helping your child to understand what is happening. Not knowing is the worst thing so you need to discuss it with them. Parents often have quite a bit of trouble with this.
It’s difficult to know what to say to them. How much do you tell them? You need to make sure that you aren’t hiding anything from them because if they overhear it somewhere else, they will start wondering why you are hiding it from them, and they’ll usually think the worst.
Get Some Help
Help is out there. If you find yourself struggling then you need to go out and find it. Seeing a psychologist can really help you deal with your own difficult emotions, which can often get neglected because you are focussing on your child. They can also give you good advice on how to talk to your child about the subject.