This week on #parentingscoop, we have the lovely Natalie from Cuppies n Cream sharing her pregnancy and parenting journey with us.
Natalie runs a blog Hello Cuppies and a business Cuppies n Cream. They are well worth checking out if you have a sweet tooth (like me!).
So let me pass you over to Natalie as she shares her story with us.
Bio – Natalie at Cuppies n Cream
I’m a Mum to 11-year-old Coby and 11-year-old step-daughter Lucy. I split with Coby’s dad when Coby was three years old and met my current boyfriend – Steve, when Coby was 5.
There is only a 3-month age gap between Coby and Lucy which is nice and they treat each other just like any other brother and sister. We have alternative weekend arrangements with the other parents – yes, we get every other weekend to ourselves – it’s bliss and it’s lovely to have our own time too.
Tell us about you when you are not in ‘mummy mode’
I bake a lot! And I teach cake decorating over at The Cake College too. I love to blog and I find baking cakes and teaching really expands my knowledge and it’s lovely to meet other people too.
We love to travel and I managed to take six holidays last year! Work hard, play hard is our motto 😉
Tell us about your pregnancy / pregnancies
I was 22 when I had Coby. A young Mum full of energy and positivity. Once the morning sickness had gone I had the perfect pregnancy and worked right up until one week before my due date. I loved my bump and how people treated you differently – kind of special!
Where did you give birth? Did you have any complications?
I developed pre-eclampsia and was admitted to Reading hospital with a liver and kidney infection too! My idea of a water-birth and no pain medication went right out of the window.
Still positive and after refusing three inductions (my baby was healthy and I really wanted to start naturally) I gave in and had the pessary, didn’t work so I accepted the drip – BOOM – labour started in full swing.
20 hours later, still no baby. Coby’s dad noticed that his heart was dropping dramatically on the heart monitor and went to fetch a midwife. The next thing I knew I was signing a consent form and was being prepped for an emergency c-section!
At this point I was scared – really scared!
The midwife – and the spinal block with strong gas helped – but I was petrified. I was asking every question possible and then started talking rubbish. I’d was nil-by-mouth, desperate for food and thought the anaesthetist was a pizza delivery man – very amusing.
Next thing I knew I had a baby boy who weighed 8lb 15oz and I was so shocked as I was sure he would be a girl. I couldn’t hold him very well so they balanced him next to me which was lovely and then things started to go wrong.
I was experiencing extreme pain in my chest and was losing my breath. Turns out the stitching wasn’t quite right and I was leaking blood up through my diaphragm. I was put to sleep, fixed up and the next thing woke up in recovery and needed two blood transfusions.
Writing it all down seems quite dramatic but I actually stayed pretty calm and recovered very quickly. I was home within three days and had a lovely summer of maternity leave.
What were the first few weeks like with a newborn?
I can’t really remember. Tiring!
I was breastfeeding and he was such a greedy baby he just didn’t stop! I holed up at home and just soaked it all up.
He was, and I hate to say this, a dream-baby! We lazed and ate – both of us.
Do you have any advice for new parents?
Trust your instincts. So many people will try to tell what’s right and what to do but you know best.
Your body is trained to do this and your protective instinct will pretty much always be right. And that ‘sleep when they sleep’ rule – totally do it!
What is your favourite thing about being a parent?
Unconditional love – pure and simple.
What is your funniest parenting story?
Oh wow – there are so many! From embarrassing shopping incidents, loud farts, grabbing women’s boobs in supermarkets… erm I think I must go with this one:
Collecting Coby from nursery one day the nursery nurse was looking quite sheepish and told me Coby may have a green tinge to him…
Turns out he wanted to be hulk so had taken a pot of green paint to the toilet, stripped naked and painted his whole body!!
What made it worse… two days later I turned up and the same thing had happened again BUT he had a friend this time – who painted himself blue.
All that weekend I kept on having to explain why my son had a green tinge to his face. Funny looking back, but not at the time!
- Cuppies n Cream Blog: https://hellocuppies.com/
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