I am so excited to have Laura from Five Little Doves on #parentingscoop this week. I have followed her blog for a long time and she is one of the loveliest people I have come across in the Blogosphere!
Laura blogs openly and honestly about her life. Her blog covers so much including, parenting, chronic illness, mental health and baby loss.
She was also blog of the day over on Mumsnet last week!
So, without further ado, I will hand you over to Laura….
Bio – Five Little Doves
My name is Laura, wife of one, mummy of 5, writer, blogger and self confessed Dairy Milk addict.
I live in Lancashire with our children – Lewis 12, Eva 4, Megan 3, Harry 2, my husband Gaz and our dog Oscar.
My second son Joseph was stillborn in 2006 and would have been 11 this Summer.
Tell us about you when you are not in ‘mummy mode’
When I’m not breaking up arguments or mopping up spillages, you will find me at the laptop, typing away, working on my blog and nosying on social media.
I love writing, always have, and use my blog to document our lives as a family and champion the causes close to my heart – mental health, chronic illness, miscarriage and stillbirth.
When I’m not writing you’ll find me lay on the couch, eating a Wispa, watching trash TV and engaging in my guilty pleasure – reading celebrity gossip on the Daily Mail website…..shhhhh!!!
Tell us about your pregnancy / pregnancies
I have been pregnant twenty times, fifteen of those times resulting in miscarriage between six and thirteen weeks, one of those times in stillbirth, to my son at full term, and four of those times I gave birth to two healthy sons and two daughters.
Understandably, my pregnancies were fraught with worry and I spent a lot of time at the hospital having scans and reassurance. With my youngest three I self injected with Clexane every day of my pregnancy, a small price to pay for a positive outcome.
Where did you give birth? Did you have any complications?
With my eldest I gave birth at our local midwife led unit, where I had the speediest of labours (eleven minutes!) and the most straight forward of births.
I was induced with Joseph the day after he had died, that was a long and gruelling labour, very emotional as you can imagine, and although physically I was fine afterwards, mentally was a different story.
Eva, Megan and Harry were all induced at 35 weeks following abnormal ECG’s and worries about their growth. All were straight forward labours and yet Harry wasn’t breathing at birth. We endured the most traumatic experience of watching the crash team try to resuscitate him. All the more painful given what we had been through with Joseph. Thankfully after a few weeks in neonatal he was home, absolutely fine.
I was more than happy for Gaz to book in for the snip just a few months later!
What were the first few weeks like with a newborn?
With Lewis, as my first, it was a very different experience than with say, Harry, my fifth.
With just one child I was able to sleep when he slept or lounge around in my pyjamas all day after being up all night feeding.
When Harry was a new born I already had a 12 month old, a 26 month old and a 10 year old, all of whom needed me in their own individual ways, and I’ll be honest with you, it was the hardest thing I have ever done!!
Do you have any advice for new parents?
My advice would be to trust your instinct.
When I had Lewis, I wish I had listened to my gut instinct more. I was so caught up in doing everything “by the book”. I made myself ill over worrying about following advice from the midwives, the health visitors, from family and friends.
If I had trusted my instinct more and let my baby lead the way, my battle with PND would have been a very different story.
What is your favourite thing about being a parent?
My favourite thing is seeing all of the children together, either snuggled up on the couch, running together in the park, their little heads together plotting my demise.
I waited for such a long time to give Lewis a sibling. Then three came along at once. I will never tire of that sight, nor of being able to say “my children”.
I am a very lucky Mummy and I never ever take that for granted.
What is your funniest parenting story
My favourite is from our summer holiday last summer. We were on the beach down in Devon and Harry found a stick and kept hitting Lewis with it on the head. “Stick head!!” he kept shouting, although due to him only being two he struggled with the pronunciation of the word. “Stick” came out as something very similar starting with a “D”.
On seeing our hysterical laughter, Megan decided to get in on the action. She spent the remainder of the holiday shouting “D*ckhead!” to anyone and everyone. I was absolutely mortified but it still makes me laugh out loud at the memory!
Thanks you so much for guest posting with us Laura! It has been a pleasure. Your “stick” story had me giggling!!!
I cant imagine how difficult it was to go through so many miscarriages and to lose Joseph. You are an inspiration, sharing your story and helping others.
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