#parentingscoop is back!
I am thrilled to have Becki from The Mum from Brum featuring on #parentingscoop today. I would love for you to pop over to her blog and say hi!
#parentingscoop has had a bit of a relaunch this year, the questions have been revised and I chuffed to have some incredible bloggers lined up for the next few months.
So without further ado, I will hand you over to the lovely Becki from The Mum from Brum …
Bio – The Mum from Brum
Hi I’m Becki, a 30 year old Brummie now living in Northampton with my Hubby and our 3 year old son, X.
I’m a SAHM who loves photography, writing and singing along (badly) to musical theatre show tunes while I’m cooking.
I blog over at The Mum from Brum: www.themumfrombrum.co.uk
Tell us about you when you are not in ‘mummy mode’
I love books; I didn’t used to so much read books as devour them! But it’s difficult to get chance since becoming a Mum.
My dream non-mummy day would consist of a long lie in, lots of tea and a Jane Austen novel in bed, before some solo shopping then a leisurely lunch with the Hubby and a trip to the theatre.
Up until I had X, I’d worked in a theatre for a long while, and I desperately miss it!
Tell us about your pregnancy.
I knew I was pregnant before I missed a period.
We’d only just started trying so I know we were very lucky to catch so quickly. The morning sickness quickly turned into all day every day sickness, and by 8 weeks pregnant I was too ill to work.
When I had my first scan at 12 weeks I was so shattered from lack of food I couldn’t make out X on the screen! At the same scan they thought I’d had a twin pregnancy, only to discover that I actually had an 8cm cyst on my left ovary (it was a Dermoid, or Mature Cystic Teratoma if you fancy a Google, but they’re super weird, I warn you!) and there was a chance that if it grew I would have to have surgery while pregnant.
My poor mother was in the waiting room watching all these doctors coming in and out of the scan room in a rush – I sent Hubby out to explain what was going on! The cyst meant loads of extra appointments and scans – which meant I got to see X loads of times throughout the pregnancy! I eventually had the cyst removed a year and a half later.
Where did you give birth? Did you have any complications?
I gave birth at the same hospital I was born in! Sadly, we had a fairly traumatic birth – my waters broke at 11pm on Monday without any contractions, and X was born, back to back, with forceps after a failed epidural, at 9pm on Tuesday.
I’d had the sintocin drip which took my contractions from 3 in 10 to 5 in 10, each lasting almost 2 minutes. When they came to site the epidural I was only getting a break of a few seconds between each one. I was given half an hour to get him out or I was going for a cesarean because his heart rate kept dropping and I was beyond exhausted – I hadn’t slept since Sunday night and it was now 8.30pm on Tuesday!
Me and a wonderful Doctor who had the forceps got him out – I really enjoyed pushing! I’d felt like a spectator for most of the labour, but now I got to do something! X was fine, APGAR scores of 9. I had a Postpartum Haemorrhage from a tear which took nearly an hour to stitch up.
What were the first few weeks like with a newborn?
Chaos. Utter chaos! We had a nightmare with breastfeeding as X wasn’t latching, so there were a lot of hours spent in tears and frantically googling how to bottle feed! My lovely Mum took some time off so that I didn’t have to spend the first few days of Hubby being back at work alone. We started to get into a rhythm, but to be honest it was mostly us fumbling around in the confusion of sleep deprivation.
Do you have any advice for new parents?
Don’t expect to get anything done. You need to spend that first few weeks holed up somewhere with easy to defrost pre-made food and a lot of tea. Everything can be pretty overwhelming but don’t be afraid to let that stress come out as tears!! A good cry can really help when you’re having a bad day. And never be afraid to ask for help – being a new parent is one of the steepest learning curves you will ever be on, and there is zero shame in being a beginner! Oh, and everything is a phase – the good and the bad!
What is your favourite thing about being a parent?
There is nothing more wonderful than having your child snuggle into you. X is 3 now, and while I miss him falling asleep in my arms, there’s nothing like him throwing his arms around me when he’s not seen me for five minutes and he’s missed me!
What is your funniest parenting story
As a baby, X was pretty sicky, our house was permanently full of airers drying out muslins. When he was about 4 months old, we thought we were past the worst of the milky spitup. So I did the usual parenty thing of lifting him up into the air to make him laugh. Which was great. Until he decided to throw up just as he reached the highest point. Of course, it went EVERYWHERE, including in my mouth. I couldn’t decide whether to laugh or cry…
Thanks so much Becki! Lovely to have you on the blog. I can certainly relate to the reading, I wish I had more time to relax with a good book.
You can find The Mum from Brum being social here, pop over and say hi:
- web: www.themumfrombrum.co.uk
- facebook: www.facebook.com/themumfrombrum
- twitter: www.twitter.com/_mumbrum
- instagram: www.instagram.com/_mumbrum
If you would like to take part in #parentingscoop then leave me a comment below, or email firstname.lastname@example.org. We would love to have you on the blog.