#Parenting Scoop: Little Hearts, Big Love

#Parenting Scoop: Little Hearts, Big Love

We had a little break from #parentingscoop over the summer. However, we were back with a bang today as we have the wonderful Louise at Little Hearts, Big Love joining us!

For me Louise is a bit of a legend in the blogging community.  She is one of the friendliest and does an incredible job of raising awareness of congenital heart defects.


Little Hearts, Big Love

Louise is a mum to two little girls. Her eldest daughter was born with hypoplastic left heart syndrome.  Her youngest is heart-healthy. She blogs about parenthood and life as a heart family over at Little Hearts, Big Love.  She is passionate about raising awareness of congenital heart defects.

Tell Us About Your Pregnancies


Jessica’s pregnancy was quite straightforward in the first trimester apart from a bit of spotting around 6 weeks. I was nauseous until 12 weeks but not really sick and I remember having horrible trapped wind pain early on. The start of the second trimester was fine.

I had to give up tap dancing at 16 weeks due to having symphysis pubis dysfunction – although thankfully I had a fab chiropractor who worked wonders. Everything changed at the 20 week scan though when we found out that Jessica had a severe congenital heart defect called hypo plastic left heart syndrome – basically the left side of her heart was underdeveloped but this was also complicated by a restrictive atrial septum which meant her prognosis was particularly poor.  

At 22 weeks we were told that Jessica’s heart condition was so severe that surgery after birth was unlikely to be an option. The doctor who gave us the news mentioned in-utero surgery which was being performed in Boston. He was quite dismissive of it as an option but we researched it with a view to going to the USA if necessary.

Thankfully our team in Oxford were willing to perform the surgery, having never done this particular procedure before. As far as we are aware, it was the first time it had been done in the UK. The surgery took place at 28 weeks and was successful. We were told not to get our hopes too high though – Jessica’s chances were still slim at best but we focused on enjoying the time we had with her while I was pregnant, as we were aware that that might be all the time we would have. I had regular heart scans for Jessica throughout the rest of the pregnancy to monitor her heart condition. 


Sophie’s pregnancy was much more straightforward. I had no spotting this time although the nausea was worse and I remember the tiredness being quite intense in the first trimester. The SPD came back but was milder than it had been first time. We had a couple of extra heart scans which indicated Sophie was heart-healthy.

In the last trimester, I developed carpal tunnel syndrome which I found quite debilitating – not being able to write for more than a couple of minutes at a time was particularly frustrating. Otherwise though, my pregnancy with Sophie was quite smooth-sailing.

In all honesty, I thoroughly enjoyed both my pregnancies, in spite of the fears and worries first time round. I loved the kicks and the feeling of growing a new life and it was quite honestly a joyful time.

Little Hearts, Big Love. Louise sits in a water pool after giving birth to her youngest daughter. Her eldest daughter and husband look at the new arrival

What was your one essential item for your hospital bag and why?

Apart from the basics like maternity pads, nappies etc. my one essential item was a cool spray for my face – very useful during labour.

Did you pack anything you didn’t use?

With Jessica we were in hospital for four weeks. I don’t think there was anything we didn’t use. Sophie was a home birth so I guess I didn’t use anything from the hospital bag!

Where did you give birth? Did you have any complications?

Jessica was born at Princess Anne Hospital in Southampton. She was supposed to be induced at 39 weeks but I went into labour at 38 weeks and Jessica was born with the help of forceps. The midwife who was at the birth was one of my mentors back in my student midwife days which was lovely, although very surreal to be on the other side!

Sophie was a home water birth with two of my midwife friends (who I’d worked in partnership with as an independent midwife) welcoming her into the world.

A mum smiles down at her tiny bundle after giving birth, Dad smiles up at her adoringly with a hand gently placed on his daughters head.

What were the first few weeks like after giving birth?

We spent the first four weeks after Jessica arrived in hospital as she had open-heart surgery at eight hours old and another surgery at a week old. She was on the paediatric intensive care unit for ten days before being transferred to the children’s cardiac ward for another ten days. We were then transferred to the John Radcliffe Hospital in Oxford for the last week before going home. It was a rollercoaster ride in many ways but we were so incredibly thankful to go home with Jessica as her prognosis had been so poor.

With Sophie I spent a week in bed being looked after and having lots of skin to skin with her. I remember the first few weeks as just being a bit of a haze of exhaustion though.  She wasn’t the best sleeper as a newborn and we had one night where she woke just as we were about to fall asleep and then didn’t settle at all until 7.15am – by which time Jessica was awake. Thankfully she’s much better at sleeping these days!

Do you have any advice for new parents?

Do what feels right for you as a family – you know your baby better than anyone else. And you will sleep again eventually – although you may doubt it at times.

If you were to go through pregnancy again, what would you do differently?

Nothing. I enjoyed pregnancy.

What is your funniest parenting story?

We were in hospital with Jessica recovering from open-heart surgery for her first Christmas. The staff did an amazing job of making it magical and Father Christmas visited all the children on Christmas morning. I was expressing when Father Christmas arrived on the ward. When he got to Jessica, I grabbed the camera to take a photo of him at her cot. It wasn’t until he walked away, having wished us all a Merry Christmas, that I realised in my haste to grab the camera, I had forgotten to put my boob away and had just flashed Father Christmas.
Daddy listens into a mummys tummy

Where to find Louise at Little Hearts, Big Love:

My top picks from Little Hearts, Big Love

I have loads of favourite posts, here is a selection for you to go and check out!

Thank you so much for taking part Louise.  It has been a pleasure to have you on the blog and share your family’s story.  I have followed Louise’s blog for some time now, she works so hard at raising awareness of heart defect and balances these moving blog posts perfectly by including lovely stories and pictures of every day life.

Please if you have a moment, go and check out Little Hearts, Big Love.

If you would like to take part in this series then I would love to hear from you.  Just email me on doublethemonkeybusiness@gmail.com





  1. 30th October 2016 / 5:54 am

    Although I read your blog all the time I was still intrigued to read this… The Santa story gave me a good giggle!
    I’m so fascinated with this series as a whole! Thank you for creating it Yvonne Xxx

  2. 9th October 2016 / 3:51 pm

    What an amazing journey! And I cannot be more impressed by the bravery and strength this couple possess. Thankfully they were able to find a Doctor to perform this surgery and succeed. Pregnancy is a stressful time, in and of itself, I cannot imagine going through this. I am sure that this will help many who are in the same, or a similar, situation.

    I love to see how others handled their pregnancy and birth and these births are very different. But the joy on the faces of the parents are the same, and I love that!

  3. 6th October 2016 / 8:55 pm

    Great to read this, I’ve read quite a bit on Louise’s blog before and always enjoy. I am chuckling away at her flashing Santa though! Mich x #BloggerClubUK

  4. 4th October 2016 / 6:41 am

    Wow, I didn’t realise they did in-utero operations like that. Amazing! And I had SPD with both of my pregnancies and the thought of tap dancing actually made me wince! Lovely to hear your story, Louise!

    • 4th October 2016 / 4:31 pm

      Thank you Tracy – SPD and tap dancing is definitely not a good combination! I’d never heard of in-utero heart surgery either until we were investigating it and five years on we’ve only encountered one other heart family who have had a similar surgery so it’s incredibly rare. We were very lucky to be offered it.

  5. 3rd October 2016 / 8:21 am

    Thank you so much for having me on the #ParentingScoop and for the lovely intro. So lovely to take part in your series 🙂

    • Double the Monkey Business
      3rd October 2016 / 7:23 pm

      Lovely to have you Hun xxx

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