When I first found out I was having twins, I was
petrified a little worried! I was wondering how on earth I was going to cope with two babies. I was a first time mum, with no experience.
In hindsight, we were lucky. We had a lot of support from family, particularly in that first year when we needed it most.
I have been reflecting lately on what direction I want my blog to go in, especially now that I have a gaping hole where I used to blog about my HELLP story. Then I thought, why not share what it is like to have twins! The Good. The Bad. The Ugly.
I am going to blog about what life is really like as a twin mummy. From sleeping, weaning and breastfeeding… through to more practical things like what buggy we bought and why.
So, to kick things off, I am going to start Twin Talk by talking about the top ten reasons having twins is the best! ***warning it may get a little cheesy***
Twins – The Positives
- Double the hugs. This is my standard response to ‘double trouble’!
- They are the same age. You might be thinking duh, but let me explain. When I had my first scan, as I said above I wondered how I would cope. The first year is hard, there is no getting away from that. But, there is something easier about having two children, the same age and in the same routine. In particular, I think this helps with sleeping, when one went from two naps to one nap, the other one did. I am guessing this is much easier than having a toddler who has one nap and a baby who has two.
- Strangers offer you help. They may have done this anyway but people do go out of their way to help you when you have twins.
- They always have a best friend. Now my two are by no means best friends all the time – they are four and they fight over what toy they are playing with, or who gets to pretend to be Luke Skywalker – but they will always have each other.
- They always have someone to share experiences with. When they started kindergarten, they started together. When they start school, they start together. Learning to swim? They will learn together. You get the idea…
- You only have to be pregnant once. Alright that pregnancy is harder than a normal pregnancy, but it is still only one pregnancy. In our case – as we don’t plan to have any more – this means I only had to be pregnant once and had two babies at the end of it, result!
- They can share a birthday party every year. Admittedly when they grow older, they may have different groups of friends, so it may have to be a mega party. But still, once a year!
- People always remember you. Actually they always remember the twins. If people see me on my own they don’t usually recognise me, which can also be a little frustrating.
- Marvelling at their differences. I find this incredibly fascinating. They are both so different and I love to watch them become their own person.
- Watching them comfort each other if they are upset. It would melt the hardest of hearts this one, nothing is nicer than watching one of them hug the other and telling them not to be sad.
- They are stronger together. I have noticed this in kindergarten, they are a force to be reckoned with. Mess with one, you mess with both. If one gets pushed then the kid will have to answer to both of them. I imagine this may turn out to be pretty useful in the school playground.
- Watching them sleep next to each other. I marvelled at how adorable the boys were when they shared a cot in the early days. We loved going to check on them when they were in separate cots and they were holding hands through the cot bars. I love that when they were moved into big boy beds, they insisted that the beds were right next to each other – with no space between them – as they told me, they sleep better that way.
Please let me know in the comments, if you want to add anything to this list.
If there is anything you want to know about having twins or you have any questions, leave me a comment.
Depending on the question I may dedicate a blog post to it!!
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