School – is it really that time already?
We are approaching the point by which we need to make a decision on our children’s future. Scarily, we will soon need to decide on which school we would like them to go to.
Such a big decision, with so little control. The idea of being unable to influence to which school they go makes me feel powerless.
I have heard plenty of words about how to approach this process: strategy; tactics; game plan.
But as I understand it, your preference is only taken into account should you be offered a place at more than one school? Is that the case?
We have a whole other dimension to be concerned about: the ‘twin thing’.
By this I mean do we keep them in the same class at school or split them up. What a hugely monumental decision to make. Even worse because I don’t know the answer.
From what I have read, some schools have strict twin policies. They have already decided that all twins will be split, or not.
All children are different.
So how can a standard policy work for everyone?
I cannot help but feel the best plan would be to see how it goes. Perhaps keep them together in reception. Let the teachers get to know them. Then decide between us what is best.
We might not get that luxury.
This saddens me.
What a huge decision to take regarding your children. Even worse still that parents – those who know these little people best – might not even get a say.
So I wonder, what if we like a school and the only thing we don’t like is the twin policy? What do we do then? What if this school is perfect in every other way?
In a few months, we are going to have to make our mind up.
We are going to have to fill out the dreaded forms.
We are going to have to take a decision that may affect them for the rest of their lives.
On top of this, I am not sure I am ready to say goodbye to my babies.
Yes, I realise it has been a long time since they were babies, but to me they are still so little. So dependent on me. So happy to have their parents on their best friend list.
I have been very lucky, I was a stay-at-home mum until they were three and will work part-time until they start full-time education. I have had so much time to cherish and love them.
I know when they go to school everything changes. At this point, there is no point pretending they are babies anymore. They are growing up. They are little boys and it won’t belong before those little boys become teenagers, then adults. This is the start of them needing us less. This is the time when they can stand on their own two feet. This is the beginning of their independence.
This time next year we will be buying uniforms and preparing our little monkeys for the big world of school.
In the past I have thought that I would be ok with this. This was, of course, before I actually had any children.
Now that the time is looming and we are thinking about visiting schools and filling out application forms, I am absolutely petrified. When I think about it, I break out in a cold sweat.
How can this be when it feels like they were just born yesterday? How can time pass so quickly.
I am not ready for that. It makes my heart ache. It fills my eyes with tears.
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