School: The Big Decision

School – is it really that time already?

School Bags at the ready

We are approaching the point by which we need to make a decision on our children’s future. Scarily, we will soon need to decide on which school we would like them to go to.

Such a big decision, with so little control. The idea of being unable to influence to which school they go makes me feel powerless.

I have heard plenty of words about how to approach this process: strategy; tactics; game plan.

But as I understand it, your preference is only taken into account should you be offered a place at more than one school? Is that the case?

We have a whole other dimension to be concerned about: the ‘twin thing’.

By this I mean do we keep them in the same class at school or split them up. What a hugely monumental decision to make. Even worse because I don’t know the answer.

From what I have read, some schools have strict twin policies. They have already decided that all twins will be split, or not.

All children are different.

So how can a standard policy work for everyone?

I cannot help but feel the best plan would be to see how it goes. Perhaps keep them together in reception. Let the teachers get to know them. Then decide between us what is best.

We might not get that luxury.

This saddens me.

What a huge decision to take regarding your children. Even worse still that parents – those who know these little people best – might not even get a say.

So I wonder, what if we like a school and the only thing we don’t like is the twin policy? What do we do then? What if this school is perfect in every other way?

In a few months, we are going to have to make our mind up.

We are going to have to fill out the dreaded forms.

We are going to have to take a decision that may affect them for the rest of their lives.

On top of this, I am not sure I am ready to say goodbye to my babies.

Yes, I realise it has been a long time since they were babies, but to me they are still so little. So dependent on me. So happy to have their parents on their best friend list.

I have been very lucky, I was a stay-at-home mum until they were three and will work part-time until they start full-time education. I have had so much time to cherish and love them.

I know when they go to school everything changes. At this point, there is no point pretending they are babies anymore. They are growing up. They are little boys and it won’t belong before those little boys become teenagers, then adults. This is the start of them needing us less. This is the time when they can stand on their own two feet. This is the beginning of their independence.

This time next year we will be buying uniforms and preparing our little monkeys for the big world of school.

In the past I have thought that I would be ok with this. This was, of course, before I actually had any children.

Now that the time is looming and we are thinking about visiting schools and filling out application forms, I am absolutely petrified. When I think about it, I break out in a cold sweat.

How can this be when it feels like they were just born yesterday? How can time pass so quickly.

I am not ready for that. It makes my heart ache. It fills my eyes with tears.

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  1. 26th August 2016 / 12:17 am

    Here in the US, you go to the school that is assigned to where you live, or you pay a boatload of money to send them to private school. Unless you choose to home school. My oldest is only 3, but I am seriously considering the home school thing, but what if I’m not cut out for it? Or what if I’m not smart enough for it?? What if I can’t teach her everything that she needs to know!?? There is so much to consider! I totally understand the dilemma!

    • Double the Monkey Business
      6th September 2016 / 7:18 pm

      I have thought about home schooling before but I am not sure if I have the patience if I am honest. Hats off to anyone that does manage it xxx

  2. 2nd July 2016 / 4:27 pm

    Oh bless you, I can feel your pain through your words. It is a new stage and a scary one. Most schools do have a policy of separating twins to allow them to develop individually. However, speak to them, explain your concerns – it’s a shared journey and one they will very much want to include you in. I hope it all goes well x

    • Double the Monkey Business
      3rd July 2016 / 8:19 pm

      Since I wrote this post, we have spoken to the schools in the area and most have said they would be happy to chat with us about it, so I am feeling a lot happier about that xx

  3. 2nd July 2016 / 11:58 am

    This is such a big thing. People in our catchment aren’t getting into the school now because it’s just too small. There are lots of things wrong with the system and more funding is needed in lots of areas

    • Double the Monkey Business
      3rd July 2016 / 8:21 pm

      We have a new school opened in our area which has helped with catchment but even then there is a severe shortage of spaces. It makes the whole thing so much more stressful xx

  4. 30th June 2016 / 9:01 pm

    It’s all so complicated, isn’t it? It has always been my firm position that people have become far to concerned about the politics of school places of late, particularly for primary school, & that it really doesn’t matter that much. However, I just know that when it comes time for us to do it, I am going to decide that it is THE MOST IMPORTANT THING EVER & have a complete meltdown! In the schools I went to, twins were always in separate classes. It had never occurred to me before to wonder if that was parental choice or school policy. However, as it was true for every single set of twins, I imagine it must have been school policies. (Lucy/R is for Hoppit)

    • Double the Monkey Business
      3rd July 2016 / 8:31 pm

      I was the same, I really didnt think it would bother me at all but it really does lol!! x

  5. 30th June 2016 / 8:26 am

    Time flies and they do grow very quickly. I am trying to enjoy each moment because I will never get it back.

    • Double the Monkey Business
      3rd July 2016 / 8:33 pm

      It is true, enjoy every moment 🙂 x

  6. 29th June 2016 / 9:47 pm

    My little girl will be going to school next year, she has just turned three. I am lucky that we live near a fantastic primary school that my eldest went too so deciding where to send her was easy. However I think I will be a nervous wreck when she actually starts as she seems to have grown so fast xx

    • Double the Monkey Business
      3rd July 2016 / 8:35 pm

      It goes past so quickly, I know people always say that but it is so true! xxx

  7. 29th June 2016 / 9:00 pm

    Oh man my twin boys will go to school next year it goes so quickly doesn’t it?! They will be nearly five by next September so I think we’ll all be ready for school days to start, even though it blows my mind. I have seen some good research on the TAMBA website about the decision of whether to have twins in the same or different class at school.

    • Double the Monkey Business
      3rd July 2016 / 8:36 pm

      My two will as well, they are September babies so starting a little later, definitely a good thing as they are no where near ready this year. Oh yes TAMBA is great for advice on stuff like that xx

  8. 29th June 2016 / 8:45 pm

    My eldest daughter starts school in September and I just don’t feel ready. She is totally ready, but I am just going to miss spending every day with her. x

    • Double the Monkey Business
      3rd July 2016 / 8:36 pm

      It is hard to think about letting them go. I hope she settles in quickly xxx

  9. 29th June 2016 / 3:33 pm

    Time does tend to fly especially when you have small children. My daughter will be six in August and sometimes I still wonder, how on earth did that happen? She was just a little baby who used to feed from me 🙁 Enjoy every minute while you can – we all need to do that.

    • Double the Monkey Business
      3rd July 2016 / 8:36 pm

      Absolutely I need to remind myself to enjoy every minute sometimes. So true x

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