Welcome to #parentingscoop
This is a new guest series for Double the Monkey Business, and I am so chuffed that my very first guest star is the fabulous Nia from Beauty Blog Wales. Nia is a fabulous lady, and I am very lucky to have her as a blogging friend. She is always there to listen and offer advice to other bloggers.
Nia offers incredible tips over on her blog, on all things beauty related: www.beautyblogwales.com. Please pop by to say hello and check out what she has to say.
Over to you Nia…
Bio – Nia at Beauty Blog Wales
My name is Nia Patten, I live in Cardiff with my husband (who’s a carpenter). I’m a dentist. We have two daughters, the young one is 5 months and the elder is nearly 4 years old.
Tell us about your pregnancy
It took us a long time to get pregnant with my first. 3 years of dedicated calendar watching and disappointment until the month I least expected it to happen, it just did. Phew!
The pregnancy was fine, not enjoyable, but zero problems until the last week when we discovered the girl was breech.
One ECV later she was pointing the right way and I was in labour.
My second pregnancy wasn’t quite as smooth going. Number two was an IVF baby. We tried for a year and a half until I decided I had had enough of this disappointment malarkey, it was time to ask for help.
2 iuis, 1 IVF and 1 ICSI later we had our big fat positive. The stress had been enormous, and the positive result gave no relief. I counted the days till the second trimester safe zone and checked my miscarriage statistics on the daily.
Then at 11 weeks, disaster! I had some bleeding. I ran to the hospital. “There’s no point in scanning you, you will just have to wait and how it goes, try and relax” said the doctor. I ended up paying privately for a scan the next day, I was so anxious. Apparently there was a clot outside the amniotic sac. The baby was alive and visibly kicking on the screen.
The stress didn’t really improve.
At the 20 week scan they couldn’t locate the babies stomach bubble, 4 scans later the sonographer informed us that there was definitely something wrong it was likely that the baby was missing the connection between its mouth and stomach. We were referred to Fetal Medicine for further tests. I was in bits, I shouldn’t have googled it, oesophageal atresia as its called is associated with syndromes and other abnormalities in 50% of cases.
There was only an 8% chance of normality after a finding of no stomach. Lying in the sonography room of the Fetal medicine department with my heart in my mouth, the scan took about 45 mins. At the end of it the lady said “Do you know, she looks lovely” she meant normal. It’s the news I hadn’t let myself imagine I’d hear.
It was wonderful.
I felt sad for the other ladies waiting with grim faces at that clinic, it’s the last place anyone wants to be. The rest of the pregnancy was normal and blissfully uneventful. I could finally relax.
I had to push hard to be allowed a home birth.
In the end everything went to plan.
What was your one essential item for your hospital bag and why?
I didn’t go to the hospital for either of my baby’s birth. I had a bag packed but it stayed where it was.
What item did you pack in your hospital bag that you didn’t use?
See number 5!
Where did you give birth? Did you have any complications?
I gave birth at home for both of my babies. Fortunately my births have been “easy” and positive. I found being at home and mobile relaxing and needed no pain relief apart from tens with my first.
My second labour was so quick I barely had time to make it to the bed and undress. The midwife was present, but only just. It was fab.
What were the first few weeks like after giving birth?
The first weeks with a new baby are a baffling time, especially the first. The thing that knocked me is the lack of recovery time you get after the labour. You barely have time to take a breath before you have to master the art of feeding the baby. It’s hard!
Do you have any advice for new parents?
Don’t worry about what anyone else tells you, go with your gut. If you want to spend a week on your own with babe cuddled up in bed do it! The rest of the world can wait.
If you were to go through pregnancy again, what would you do differently?
I probably would have taken a bit more time of work at the end, I could have been more self indulgent.
What is your funniest parenting story?
My daughter is always making us laugh with her comments and misunderstandings.
The day she asked me “Whobody’s a huper sero?”was a good one.
My husband and I still chuckle about my second labour. My husband was bathing my elder daughter at the time. I was pacing the landing on my own waiting for the midwife when my waters went, I was gripped with panic and the urge to push.
My husband looked out of the bathroom and thought to himself “oh dear, Nia’s lost control of her bladder” and just stood there looking at me with pity while I struggled not to give birth into my trousers.
It was pretty ridiculous.
Thanks Double the Monkey Business for letting me tell my story!
Where to find Nia, Beauty Blog Wales:
- Website: www.beautyblogwales.com,
- Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/niapattenlooks,
- Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/niapattenlooks
My favourite posts from Beauty Blog Wales:
- How to prevent your under eye makeup from creasing
- 30 second brows, an easy guide to brow makeup
- Concealer revealer: which is the best high street concealer
Thanks so much for taking part Nia. Thank you for sharing your incredible story with us. Great advice: “If you want to spend a week on your own with babe cuddled up in bed do it”. I wish I had paid attention to that in those first few weeks.