The One Where: Mummy needs a break! 

I have said time and time again that I would like some time away.  I really felt like I needed a break.

He has had a couple of ‘lad trips’ and I wanted the same.

So, I booked a trip away and waited with aniticipation.

I am writing this post from the plane as I make my way to our destination.  I should be excited and happy to have a break away.

Instead I feel ‘break’ guilt.

I already miss my two monkeys and the hubby.  I only left them an hour ago.

It makes me wonder, why is that?

I have worked hard this year and everyone has encouraged me to go and enjoy the break.

However, I still feel terrible for leaving them.

I am going to admit, I am not very good at leaving the kids.  I always feel like this.  Every. Time.

I like to have them nearby and I hate the thought that they might fall or be sad and I wont be there to comfort them.

Two days is definitely my limit when it comes to being away.

As the morning rolled on, I had a strange mix of guilt and excitement in the pit of my stomach.

Let the weekend commence. Is it to early for wine on the plane?

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It is so good to have a break, so I really wish I was not so hard on myself.  I wish I was able to relax before I leave.

As I was dropped off at the airport, it was heartbreaking to walk away.

Bob L was holding his hand up at the window and I could see his bottom lip going.  He had asked me repeatedly throughout the day if he could come with me.  It didn’t help that he had assumed I was going to visit Grandma.  In his mind that is where we go when we get on a plane.

Let the weekend commence. Is it to early for wine on the plane?

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The Benefits

But, going away child-free has its major benefits.  Here are a list of things that I took for granted before having children which now feel like a treat.

  • Packing: Oh what a luxury it is to pack for one.  Just pick a few things and you are good to go.  Not quite sure how I still managed to forget some essential items!
  • One Bag: It is very nice to arrive at the airport and just go through security with a small suitcase.  Very nice again to not have to wait at the other end for your suitcase.
  • Plane peace: We are very lucky to have a couple of seasoned travellers with our two.  This is partly due to living in mainland Europe, so we go back to the UK to visit frequently.  Despite the fact they are good on a plane, it is still nice to just sit down, write a few words on a laptop and enjoy an onboard coffee.
  • Evening out: It is lovely to arrive at the destination, have a shower and head out for food and drink.

Now that I am here the guilt has faded and I am having a lovely time, on the agenda today is a sneaky shopping trip (don’t tell hubby!).

In the mean time, back home, Daddy Day Care is in charge!  They are coping considerably well, in fact bedtime seemed to be a breeze last night and I am feeling rather jealous – that never happens when I am there!!!

Cheers!

Cheers!! One from last night. Very much enjoyed this presecco! X

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44 Comments

  1. 24th August 2016 / 6:03 pm

    The longest I have ever left my children was when I was in the hospital having another child. I have wanted and needed to take a breather, but man, that guilt just kills me! I’m glad that you were able to go and have a wonderful time though. I will get there one of these days!

    • Double the Monkey Business
      6th September 2016 / 7:19 pm

      The guilt is horrible. I have to say I won’t be doing it very often, missed them like crazy x

  2. 15th August 2016 / 5:04 pm

    Like you, I have never had a break away from my kids, but the hubby has had a fair few. He’s been away for work do’s, with the lads and he’ll get a break in a couple of days when I take the kids to visit my Dad. In 10 years I have not had a night alone! And… I think if I ever do, I will feel very guilty. There is a slight possibility, if the kids behave, my Mum may have all 3 for a sleepover next Monday…. watch this space! Sarah #FabFridayPost

  3. 12th August 2016 / 1:15 pm

    Four girls under nine here…two year olds are identical twins. It is a 24 -7 rat race.

    Never EVER too early to drink wine on the plane girl!

  4. 12th August 2016 / 8:33 am

    Have a great time! Don’t worry about the kids, they will be fine. I know what you mean about bedtime – the same with me also! Lol! Thank you so much for joining us on #FabFridayPost

  5. 12th August 2016 / 8:09 am

    I understand how it feels. You want some me time, but at the same time, you feel so guilty not being with them… I am always like that! #FabFridayPost

  6. 10th August 2016 / 8:44 am

    I hope your trip was wonderful! And I hope the Mrs. and I can plan a little get away, for a day, an afternoon, a dinner. It’s been so hard, and we really do need it. Lovely post that I am thrilled I got to read! 🙂 <3 M'wah!
    #bigpinklink #fartglitter #fabfridaypost

  7. 7th August 2016 / 3:39 pm

    It does you so much good to have some time to yourself. Mine has only been blog conferences so far but hope to venture farther afield soon

    • Double the Monkey Business
      7th August 2016 / 8:00 pm

      Ah a blog conference is next on my list, I have warned the hubby about that already – figure it will give him time to get his head around it ha ha x

  8. 7th August 2016 / 1:38 am

    Oh lucky you, a whole adult weekend away! I know it sounds awful, but I’d love a weekend away when the littlest one is a little older. I dont think there is anything wrong with recharging the batteried every now and then. Glad you had a lovely time, cant wait to read more. Thanks for sharing this on #MarvMondays. Emily

    • Double the Monkey Business
      7th August 2016 / 8:02 pm

      It was a great weekend and nice to recharge the batteries, also glad to get home to the boys – those cuddles were extra special xx

  9. 6th August 2016 / 11:17 pm

    It’s so easy to feel guilty and we shouldn’t! I’ve never left my children – partly because I have nobody to look after them but I probably will do it one day. My husband has been ill for a few years but is on the mend now, which is great. He has epilepsy and they just needed to get his condition under control and it finally is! I hope you certainly feel nice and refreshed! Thanks for linking up, #AnythingGoes Janet

    • Double the Monkey Business
      7th August 2016 / 8:03 pm

      I am glad that your husband has started to get his condition under control, must be a huge relief. xx

  10. 6th August 2016 / 9:07 pm

    Oh I feel you. It’s so hard isn’t it? We look forward to the ‘time off’ but when it comes we think too hard about their feelings and forget all that time we longed for a bit of space and time to recharge. I always find I come back fresher and ready to get on with ‘normal’ life again though. It helps to miss them sometimes and it probably does them a little bit of good too. Great post and I hope you had a lovely weekend. #AnythingGoes

    • Double the Monkey Business
      7th August 2016 / 8:04 pm

      Absolutely spot on, I agree it helps to miss them and so nice to see them again. xx

  11. 6th August 2016 / 11:50 am

    Oh I totally get this! I wish for time away all the time, but then when it comes to going I suddenly wish I wasn’t! After the first few hours I start to relax and enjoy it though (although I do love the photos from Daddy). And it’s the same in our house – apparently bedtime always runs absolutely smoothly for Daddy – where am I going wrong?! I hope you had an amazing time – the prosecco looks fabulous! Thanks so much for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

    • Double the Monkey Business
      7th August 2016 / 8:07 pm

      Glad it isn’t just me lol! We are back to normal at bedtimes now, with L asking for 100 different things before going to sleep. Hubby says I am too soft, he might be right ha ha! x

  12. 5th August 2016 / 7:27 pm

    The packing scenario made me recall my packing to go into hospital and the eldest kept unpacking things! #MarvMondays

    • Double the Monkey Business
      7th August 2016 / 8:10 pm

      Oh no, that sounds like a nightmare!! x

  13. 4th August 2016 / 7:44 pm

    I’ve only ever stayed away overnight for work but I always really look forward to it (uninterrupted sleep, long showers, peaceful breakfasts) but on the day never want to go. One day I’ll get a non-work break away! #sharingthebloglove

    • Double the Monkey Business
      7th August 2016 / 8:13 pm

      Ah yes uninterrupted sleep is the best! x

  14. 3rd August 2016 / 5:40 am

    Enjoy your weekend away, it is good for all of you. #MarvMondays

    • Double the Monkey Business
      7th August 2016 / 8:17 pm

      Thank you x

  15. 3rd August 2016 / 2:13 am

    I am the same. I am wrecked with guilt and the fear that I can’t be there with my family. You deserve some time to yourself and I hope you’re having a great time. Thanks for sharing with #bigpinklink

    • Double the Monkey Business
      7th August 2016 / 8:17 pm

      It is true, we do deserve a break. I was much happier when I arrived and started to relax xxx

  16. 2nd August 2016 / 9:29 pm

    Oh I know how you feel. We recently had our first night away from little one in almost 2 years! I’m not sure I’m ready to go away on my own yet but I definitely need it!! You deserve it, hope you had a lovely time.x #MarvMondays

    • Double the Monkey Business
      7th August 2016 / 8:18 pm

      Oh wow, that must have been lovely and nerve-wracking at the same time. Hope you had a lovely time. x

  17. 2nd August 2016 / 9:10 pm

    I can totally relate to this lovely. You really do deserve some time to yourself, but then once you get it you feel so incredibly guilty and miss them so much. Try to concentrate on you for once. Your break will be over in a blink and you’ll be back to Mummydom. It’ll do you all the world of good and the cuddles when you get home will be amazing Thanks for sharing with #fartglitter and I hope you are having / have had a fantastic time x

    • Double the Monkey Business
      7th August 2016 / 8:20 pm

      It was over all too quickly, but those cuddles were the best xxx

  18. 2nd August 2016 / 11:46 am

    I had a Mum-break recently too. I took my camping gear and went camping in Norway for a full week ALL BY MYSELF! It was awesome. 🙂 I felt guilty at first, but sitting there in my tent with no demands from anyone just reading my book made me forget all about the guilt. 🙂

    • Double the Monkey Business
      7th August 2016 / 8:23 pm

      Oh wow, that sounds like utter bliss!!! xx

  19. 2nd August 2016 / 8:38 am

    Oh I hope you had a lovely break! The guilt is so hard, I remember when my kids were small and the rare occasions we went out were always tinged with terrible guilt. You totally deserve a bit of time out though and it’s good for kids to see that we have our own lives too.

    • Double the Monkey Business
      7th August 2016 / 8:24 pm

      That is very true hun xx

  20. 1st August 2016 / 10:20 pm

    Aw no need to feel guilty hun, you completely deserve the break and how about that shopping trip? Treat yourself!

    • Double the Monkey Business
      7th August 2016 / 8:26 pm

      Oh yes shopping in Oxford Street, bliss! I cant wait to move back to London next year ! x

  21. 1st August 2016 / 8:45 pm

    Freya has always felt like this when we go away too. But she does manage to enjoy herself…age might not come back physically refreshed due to wine consumption…but she does come back mentally refreshed!#bigpinklink

    • Double the Monkey Business
      7th August 2016 / 8:26 pm

      Ha ha that was a bit like me, I was mentally refreshed but felt a bit fragile when I returned lol! x

  22. 1st August 2016 / 8:04 pm

    You totally deserve a break and I think its good to book something that you can’t really cancel! I went away for 2 nights in April for the first time since becoming a mum nearly 4 years ago. It was tough, but I did come back feeling ready to take on the world again 🙂 i agree 2 nights is the maximum for me too and I don’t think it will happen often for me, I just miss them too much. But I do make time for me in other ways x #marvmondays

    • Double the Monkey Business
      1st August 2016 / 8:16 pm

      Like you I have come back much more ready to face the world again! A break is a good thing although I am the same and don’t think i will be doing it very often xxxx

  23. 1st August 2016 / 7:34 pm

    I’m so envious that you’ve managed to go away sans the husband and the kids, but having said that, will probably feel exactly what you’re feeling. But like you mentioned, I think it’s important that we all have a break too, even mums need that! 🙂 Now if only we could get rid of the mummy guilt 😉 Hope you’re having a grand time!

    • Double the Monkey Business
      1st August 2016 / 7:53 pm

      That mummy guilt is the worst! Nice to have a break away though, I feel a lot more able to deal with the tantrums once more ha ha! x

  24. 30th July 2016 / 8:29 am

    Ah, lovely. I know completely how you feel.
    But you’re right, we all need a break every now and then, and you’ve totally earned it with the few years you’ve had.
    Enjoy every moment…and every prosecco xx

    • Double the Monkey Business
      1st August 2016 / 7:55 pm

      Oh yes I did indeed enjoy the prosecco and the shopping 🙂 x

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