Twins – The Positives

When I first found out I was having twins, I was petrified a little worried!  I was wondering how on earth I was going to cope with two babies.  I was a first time mum, with no experience.

In hindsight, we were lucky.  We had a lot of support from family, particularly in that first year when we needed it most.

I have been reflecting lately on what direction I want my blog to go in, especially now that I have a gaping hole where I used to blog about my HELLP story.  Then I thought, why not share what it is like to have twins!  The Good.  The Bad.  The Ugly.

I am going to blog about what life is really like as a twin mummy.  From sleeping, weaning and breastfeeding… through to more practical things like what buggy we bought and why.

So, to kick things off, I am going to start Twin Talk by talking about the top ten reasons having twins is the best!  ***warning it may get a little cheesy***

 

Twins – The Positives

  • Double the hugs.  This is my standard response to ‘double trouble’!
  • They are the same age.  You might be thinking duh, but let me explain.   When I had my first scan, as I said above I wondered how I would cope.  The first year is hard, there is no getting away from that.  But, there is something easier about having two children, the same age and in the same routine.  In particular, I think this helps with sleeping, when one went from two naps to one nap, the other one did.  I am guessing this is much easier than having a toddler who has one nap and a baby who has two.
  • Strangers offer you help.  They may have done this anyway but people do go out of their way to help you when you have twins.
  • They always have a best friend.  Now my two are by no means best friends all the time – they are four and they fight over what toy they are playing with, or who gets to pretend to be Luke Skywalker – but they will always have each other.
  • They always have someone to share experiences with.  When they started kindergarten, they started together. When they start school, they start together. Learning to swim? They will learn together. You get the idea…
  • You only have to be pregnant once.  Alright that pregnancy is harder than a normal pregnancy, but it is still only one pregnancy.  In our case – as we don’t plan to have any more – this means I only had to be pregnant once and had two babies at the end of it, result!
  • They can share a birthday party every year.  Admittedly when they grow older, they may have different groups of friends, so it may have to be a mega party.  But still, once a year!
  • People always remember you.  Actually they always remember the twins.  If people see me on my own they don’t usually recognise me, which can also be a little frustrating.
  • Marvelling at their differences.  I find this incredibly fascinating.  They are both so different and I love to watch them become their own person.
  • Watching them comfort each other if they are upset.  It would melt the hardest of hearts this one, nothing is nicer than watching one of them hug the other and telling them not to be sad.
  • They are stronger together.  I have noticed this in kindergarten, they are a force to be reckoned with.  Mess with one, you mess with both.  If one gets pushed then the kid will have to answer to both of them.  I imagine this may turn out to be pretty useful in the school playground.
  • Watching them sleep next to each other.  I marvelled at how adorable the boys were when they shared a cot in the early days.  We loved going to check on them when they were in separate cots and they were holding hands through the cot bars.  I love that when they were moved into big boy beds, they insisted that the beds were right next to each other – with no space between them – as they told me, they sleep better that way.twins

Please let me know in the comments, if you want to add anything to this list.

If there is anything you want to know about having twins or you have any questions, leave me a comment.

Depending on the question I may dedicate a blog post to it!!

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33 Comments

  1. Leah Miller
    26th July 2016 / 6:19 pm

    I love this so much – nothing is too cheesy when it comes to loving your kids! My sister went through the same thought process when she found out she was expecting twins, and the first year was a real struggle, but there is something so incredibly special about the bond that they have together. I don’t think any of us non-twins will ever understand it fully.

    Your boys sounds absolutely wonderful, and I have to say I am a little more than jealous of the one birthday party thing!! Xx

    • Double the Monkey Business
      26th July 2016 / 9:05 pm

      Oh yes the one party is a huge plus 🙂 They do have a lovely bond and I love that they always have each other xx

  2. 22nd July 2016 / 2:35 pm

    This is a beautiful post, I am so glad to see how you are enjoying your twins #anythinggoes

    • Double the Monkey Business
      26th July 2016 / 9:13 pm

      Thanks x

  3. 19th July 2016 / 7:10 pm

    Aw, I do always think how amazing it must be to have twins (after that first year – I can’t imagine it with two after struggling so much with one). It must be lovely to know they have each other for nursery/school etc, too. Thanks for linking up to #MarvMondays. Kaye xo

    • Double the Monkey Business
      1st August 2016 / 8:21 pm

      It is really nice to know they have each other 🙂 x

  4. 19th July 2016 / 11:27 am

    This is so lovely. We don’t have twins in our family and so this is so interesting, especially the fact that people always remember you, which is so true – you’re always the twin mom. #bigpinklink… I like the being pregnant once! I always have hard pregnancies, so that is rather appealing.

    • Double the Monkey Business
      1st August 2016 / 8:22 pm

      It is very nice to know I dont have to be pregnant again I have to say 🙂 x

  5. 19th July 2016 / 8:26 am

    Awww I cooed so much through this post. Especially at them holding hands through the cot bars and wanting their beds next to each other. It must be so lovely to have a friend to grow up with. I often feel for my daughter Evie being an only child, I come from a big family of siblings and never feel lonely. Twins will always have that special bond too that’ll never break. It must be so lovely seeing their individual personalities shine through too, even though they’re being brought up at the same time in the same way. x

    • Double the Monkey Business
      7th August 2016 / 8:27 pm

      It is really amazing to see the differences in them considering they have the same upbringing, they are total opposites xx

  6. 19th July 2016 / 8:26 am

    Awww I cooed so much through this post. Especially at them holding hands through the cot bars and wanting their beds next to each other. It must be so lovely to have a friend to grow up with. I often feel for my daughter Evie being an only child, I come from a big family of siblings and never feel lonely. Twins will always have that special bond too that’ll never break. It must be so lovely seeing their individual personalities shine through too, even though they’re being brought up at the same time in the same way. x

    • Double the Monkey Business
      1st August 2016 / 8:22 pm

      I am an only-child so I really love to see the connection they have 🙂 x

  7. 19th July 2016 / 7:02 am

    Not too cheesy, a lovely post xxx Cute photo too x

    • Double the Monkey Business
      1st August 2016 / 8:23 pm

      thanks 🙂 x

  8. 18th July 2016 / 8:15 pm

    Aw this is so lovely. I think that the bond between siblings is amazing but between twins there is something so magical. They each have a forever friend and soul mate. It’s beautiful.
    Thanks for sharing with #fartglitter

    • Double the Monkey Business
      1st August 2016 / 8:23 pm

      thanks 🙂 x

  9. 18th July 2016 / 8:10 pm

    I love your post. As a twin mummy myself, I can totally relate to your list. I often find mine asleep, entwined, on the floor, with their duvets covering each other up. It’s so endearing how they look out for each other. Mine like making sure the other is well fed. I love your photo of them from the back. I love taking pictures of their little heads together. I’ll be back to read more of your posts soon. #AnythingGoes

    • Double the Monkey Business
      1st August 2016 / 8:24 pm

      thank you , always nice to hear from another twin mummy x

  10. 18th July 2016 / 3:27 pm

    Aww how lovely! Eventhough twins don’t run in my family I always said I wanted twins… Now I can’t see, I’m glad twins don’t run in the family 😉 xxx

    • Double the Monkey Business
      1st August 2016 / 8:04 pm

      They are a blessing and hard work at the same time ha ha! Hope you are ok hun, been thinking of you x

  11. 18th July 2016 / 12:55 pm

    Aww this post made me melt, especially the sleeping bit! I would love to have twins. I know it’s not all roses, especially in the first few years, but one pregnancy for two babies is great! #fartglitter

    • Double the Monkey Business
      1st August 2016 / 8:05 pm

      One pregnancy is a definite bonus! x

  12. 18th July 2016 / 12:50 pm

    This sounds like a great series I’m looking forward to it! Especially the breastfeeding! I breastfeed my son and know it can be difficult with one, so two – well done! #anythinggoes

    • Double the Monkey Business
      1st August 2016 / 8:06 pm

      Oh yes breastfeeding, that was tricky! thanks xx

  13. 18th July 2016 / 10:51 am

    That’s such a lovely post. My mum is an identical twin and she always said it had some real benefits but some down points too.

    • Double the Monkey Business
      1st August 2016 / 8:07 pm

      I think it is nice for them to grow up together, although they do get on each others nerves sometimes! x

  14. 17th July 2016 / 9:26 pm

    This is a lovely list of all the things that us twin mums are so lucky to have/observe. Having twins can be tough but it is super special too and this is a great reminder and so positive. Thank you.

    • Double the Monkey Business
      1st August 2016 / 8:08 pm

      Thanks! So true it is very special 🙂 x

  15. 17th July 2016 / 1:15 pm

    How cute are those little capes! Seriously so cute. It’s really nice that they are each others best friend and it helps when it comes to their routine, I would have loved twins tbh! It’s sweet that they will comfort each other and I guess that’s such a lovely bonding experience.

    Jordanne || Thelifeofaglasgowgirl.co.uk

    • Double the Monkey Business
      26th July 2016 / 9:14 pm

      The capes are very cute. I fear one day we will lose them and will have a meltdown on our hands! x

  16. 17th July 2016 / 9:49 am

    This is adorable. I loved the bit where you found them holding hands in their cots. So sweet x

    • Double the Monkey Business
      1st August 2016 / 8:08 pm

      That is always a nice moment, nice to see the bond they have x

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