I am so excited to have one of my favourite foodie bloggers, Tracy from The Culinary Jumble, on #parentingscoop this month!!!
If you have not already, please visit her website. Her recipes are incredible, she makes a wide range of different things and there is something for everyone, including gluten free recipes.
Over to your Tracy, as she has a VERY important story to tell about her pregnancy…
Bio – Tracy at The Culinary Jumble
I am Tracy. I am mum to two boys, Harley 11 and Luka, 9. I am an English expat living in Sweden. I work part-time as a home language teacher and I spend WAY too much time on my food blog!.
Tell us about your pregnancy
I had my boys fairly late in life. My first son was born when I was 37. My second, a month after my 40th birthday.
With both pregnancies I suffered with hyperemesis gravidarum. I had no idea it even existed until after my first son was born.
With my first baby, I weighed less when giving birth than I had before I got pregnant. I lost so much weight and was vomiting until around 16 weeks. After that, the nausea continued until the very end of the pregnancy.
First time around nobody believed how bad it was.
Second time around, I went in all guns blazing at my first midwifes’ appointment, but luckily she was more clued up and knew about HG. I was given a very sympathetic ear and medication, which made my second pregnancy slightly easier to bear.
Many women who suffer with HG have a form of PTSD and depression after the births because the pregnancy is so horrific and hard on the body both mentally and physically. I still cry whenever I think back to those days and it is something which will always stay with me. I was robbed of a special time which should be a peaceful, wonderful experience.
I didn’t enjoy one minute of my pregnancies, and that breaks my heart.
I am a bit of an advocate for the cause. Although understanding is so much better than it was when I was first pregnant, people still confuse HG with morning sickness.
It’s a battle that most women who go through HG have to endure. People think you are overreacting and exaggerating, but I always say: imagine the worst hangover of your life. Now imagine feeling like that for nine months.
I have written a couple of articles on the subject:
https://www.spewingmummy.co.uk/blog/months/november-2014 – this is a my personal account.
What was your one essential item for your hospital bag and why?
I guess I just had the usual; nappies, wipes and baby clothes.
What item did you pack in your hospital bag that you didn’t use?
The extra 199 baby bodies that I didn’t use!
Where did you give birth? Did you have any complications?
I gave birth to both boys in Sweden. The experience for both was brilliant (if giving birth could ever be termed as “brilliant”).
They do things differently in Sweden. Firstly, you never see an obstetrician unless there is an emergency (both during the pregnancy and labour) and the midwives do it all. Both of mine were lovely – very supportive and encouraging!
I went into labour with Harley at 9pm on a Monday (I know because CSI was just starting!) and gave birth at just before 4am. I had gas and air and needed an episiotomy, but other than that, no complications.
With Luka, I was eight days overdue and went in to be induced. He was born within two hours of them breaking my waters. I tore naturally and again just had gas and air. He was born with the cord wrapped round his neck and a very bashed face. He also had a slight heart murmur but that healed on its own.
What were the first few weeks like after giving birth?
It’s all hazy, to be honest, but I think I coped way better than I’d imagined I would.
Henrik (my husband) believes I was a little depressed after the births, but I don’t really remember that. I think that HG paid such a toll on my body that it would have been perfectly understandable to feel a little out of sorts after giving birth. But, I just remember feeling relieved that I could eat again, and smell food without wanting to heave!
Do you have any advice for new parents?
Yes! Do what YOUR instincts tell you to do!
Don’t compare yourself to anyone else and don’t let well-meaning older and experienced friends / relatives make you feel wrong about your own decisions.
He/she is your baby and nobody will know them like you do.
Don’t sleep when the baby sleeps – nobody actually does that – catch up on the things you can’t do when the baby is awake instead.
Take each day as it comes and don’t ever let mummy guilt bite you on the bum – you are doing a great job!
If you were to go through pregnancy again, what would you do differently?
I would shout louder about how bad I felt.
I wouldn’t let people palm me off with it’s just a normal pregnancy or “try ginger”.
I wouldn’t feel ashamed that I felt so ill.
I wouldn’t feel so terribly guilty about others having to help me so much.
What is your funniest parenting story?
I have scratched my head over this one.
The only thing that jumps out is that when Harley was first born, I didn’t know how to pick him up. I’d never held a new-born before and I was so scared of hurting him. I would scoop him up with both hands like I was lifting a heavy box, and the midwife had to show me how to do it properly!
Embarrassing and funny at the same time!
Where to find Tracy, The Culinary Jumble:
My favourite posts from The Culinary Jumble… now this is a tricky one as there are so many amazing recipes on her blog. In fact I think the only real solution is for you to check out her blog here. Anyway here goes, these are three you must check out:
- This is one for those looking for gluten free recipes: http://www.theculinaryjumble.com/2016/06/30/gluten-free-rustic-individual-strawberry-galettes/
Thanks so much for taking part Tracy. Thank you for sharing your story with us, I am so sorry that you have had to experience this. I cant imagine how it must have been for you, being so ill for the whole of your pregnancy.
Great advice though: “Do what YOUR instincts tell you to do!” and “Don’t compare yourself to anyone else”. I think this is so important. I still compare myself to others so could do with listening to this advice.
Have you had any experience with HG? Do you have any questions about it? If so leave a comment below.