The Culinary Jumble #parentingscoop

Welcome to#parentingscoop

I am so excited to have one of my favourite foodie bloggers, Tracy from The Culinary Jumble, on #parentingscoop this month!!!

If you have not already, please visit her website.  The recipes on The Culinary Jumble are incredible, she makes a wide range of different things and there is something for everyone, including gluten free recipes.

You may recognise this website, as I am often sharing her recipes on Facebook, and with good
reason.  She is fabulous.

Over to your Tracy, as she has a VERY important story to tell about her pregnancy…

Tracy, The Culinary Jumble

Bio – Tracy at The Culinary Jumble

I am Tracy.  I am mum to two boys, Harley 11 and Luka, 9, I am an English expat living in Sweden.  Currently, I work part-time as a home language teacher and I spend WAY too much time on my food blog!.

Tell us about your pregnancy

I had my boys fairly late in life.  My first son was born when I was 37.  My second, a month after my 40th birthday.

With both pregnancies I suffered with hyperemesis gravidarum.  I had no idea it even existed until after my first son was born.

With my first baby, I weighed less when giving birth than I had before I got pregnant. I lost so much weight and was vomiting until around 16 weeks. After that, the nausea continued until the very end of the pregnancy.

First time around nobody believed how bad it was.

Second time around, I went in all guns blazing at my first midwifes’ appointment, but luckily she was more clued up and knew about HG.  I was given a very sympathetic ear and medication, which made my second pregnancy slightly easier to bear.

Many women who suffer with HG have a form of PTSD and depression after the births because the pregnancy is so horrific and hard on the body both mentally and physically. Whenever I think back to those days, I still cry and it is something which will always stay with me. I was robbed of a special time which should be a peaceful, wonderful experience.

I didn’t enjoy one minute of my pregnancies, and that breaks my heart. 

Now, I am a bit of an advocate for the cause. Although understanding is so much better than it was when I was first pregnant, people still confuse HG with morning sickness.

It’s a battle that most women who go through HG have to endure.  People think you are overreacting and exaggerating, but I always say: imagine the worst hangover of your life. Now imagine feeling like that for nine months.

I have written a couple of articles on the subject:

https://www.spewingmummy.co.uk/blog/months/november-2014 – this is a my personal account.

http://ezinearticles.com/?Hyperemesis-Gravidarum:-The-Truth&id=8158358

What was your one essential item for your hospital bag and why?

I guess I just had the usual; nappies, wipes and baby clothes.

What item did you pack in your hospital bag that you didn’t use?

The extra 199 baby bodies that I didn’t use!

Where did you give birth? Did you have any complications?

I gave birth to both boys in Sweden. The experience for both was brilliant (if giving birth could ever be termed as “brilliant”).

They do things differently in Sweden.  Firstly, you never see an obstetrician unless there is an emergency (both during the pregnancy and labour) and the midwives do it all. Both of mine were lovely – very supportive and encouraging!

I went into labour with Harley at 9pm on a Monday (I know because CSI was just starting!) and gave birth at just before 4am. I had gas and air and needed an episiotomy, but other than that, no complications.

With Luka, I was eight days overdue and went in to be induced.  He was born within two hours of them breaking my waters. I tore naturally and again just had gas and air. He was born with the cord wrapped round his neck and a very bashed face.  He also had a slight heart murmur but that healed on its own.

What were the first few weeks like after giving birth?

It’s all hazy, to be honest, but I think I coped way better than I’d imagined I would.

Henrik (my husband) believes I was a little depressed after the births, but I don’t really remember that. I think that HG paid such a toll on my body that it would have been perfectly understandable to feel a little out of sorts after giving birth.  But, I just remember feeling relieved that I could eat again, and smell food without wanting to heave!

Do you have any advice for new parents?

Yes! Do what YOUR instincts tell you to do!

Don’t compare yourself to anyone else and don’t let well-meaning older and experienced friends / relatives make you feel wrong about your own decisions.

He/she is your baby and nobody will know them like you do.

Don’t sleep when the baby sleeps – nobody actually does that – catch up on the things you can’t do when the baby is awake instead.

Take each day as it comes and don’t ever let mummy guilt bite you on the bum – you are doing a great job!

If you were to go through pregnancy again, what would you do differently?

I would shout louder about how bad I felt.

I wouldn’t let people palm me off with it’s just a normal pregnancy or “try ginger”.

I wouldn’t feel ashamed that I felt so ill.

I wouldn’t feel so terribly guilty about others having to help me so much.

What is your funniest parenting story?

I have scratched my head over this one.

The only thing that jumps out is that when Harley was first born, I didn’t know how to pick him up. I’d never held a new-born before and I was so scared of hurting him. I would scoop him up with both hands like I was lifting a heavy box, and the midwife had to show me how to do it properly!

Embarrassing and funny at the same time!

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Where to find Tracy, The Culinary Jumble:

My favourite posts from The Culinary Jumble…

now this is a tricky one as there are so many amazing recipes on her blog.  In fact I think the only real solution is for you to check out her blog here.  Anyway here goes, these are three you must check out:

Thanks so much for taking part Tracy.  Thank you for sharing your story with us, I am so sorry that you have had to experience this.  I cant imagine how it must have been for you, being so ill for the whole of your pregnancy.

Great advice though: “Do what YOUR instincts tell you to do!”  and “Don’t compare yourself to anyone else”. I think this is so important. I still compare myself to others so could do with listening to this advice.

Have you had any experience with HG?  Do you have any questions about it?  If so leave a comment below.

Are you interested in taking part in the next guest series?  If so either comment below or drop me am email at doublethemonkeybusiness@gmail.com.  For more information on #parentingscoop, visit here

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35 Comments

  1. 12th July 2016 / 9:22 pm

    Oh how awful. I was lucky and didn’t have morning sickness at all, but a good friend of mine did have this and was hospitalised for most of both her pregnancies. It was heartbreaking for her. Well done for speaking up the second time!! #SharingtheBlogLove

    • Double the Monkey Business
      26th July 2016 / 9:18 pm

      Thanks for reading, sorry to hear about your friend that must of been a really hard time for her x

  2. 10th July 2016 / 6:25 pm

    I know I commented above before. But, just wanted say Thank you for joining us for #SharingtheBlogLove Laura x

  3. 10th July 2016 / 3:54 am

    What a lovely interview. I know her pain of HG. I was in the boarder line of it. It sucks big time. Thank you so much for linking up with us on #FabFridayPost x

    • Double the Monkey Business
      1st August 2016 / 8:12 pm

      A very tough thing to have to go through during pregnancy. I am not sure how I would have coped. x

  4. 9th July 2016 / 8:06 am

    What a lovely series and so interesting to read about other bloggers’ pregnancy experiences and approach to parenthood. HG sounds so awful though and it must be even worse when people just try to brush it off. I do love the sound of pregnancy care in Sweden though – focusing on being midwife-led unless it needs to be otherwise. Definitely agree with the advice to do what your instincts tell you to do and that you know your baby better than anyone else. I’d love to take part in your series if you would like to have me join in.

    • Double the Monkey Business
      26th July 2016 / 9:34 pm

      I would LOVE to have you, I will drop you an email hun with the details xxx

  5. 8th July 2016 / 3:06 pm

    Thanks for sharing this – it’s really helped me to feel more confident in getting the help I might need for a second pregnancy. I wasn’t ever diagnosed with HG, and I’m not sure whether my experience qualifies as being anywhere near as serious, but I was sick at least once every day throughout my pregnancy, with between 6-26 weeks being the worst point where I would be sick constantly. I was never offered any kind of medication, just told that ‘sometimes it can be like that’. It’s really put me off having another, but I think we’ve got to the point where we both really want to. It’s just the thought of going through it with a toddler running around. But hopefully I can be much stronger this time round about getting medical help. Thanks so much for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

  6. 8th July 2016 / 9:55 am

    I can sympathise, my Mum was sick every single day when she was pregnant with me, she said she crawled to the bathroom every day up until she had me. Luckily I only had it for about 4 months with my girls and with my boy I just felt nauseaus. Sarah #FabFridayPost

  7. 8th July 2016 / 9:54 am

    I love reading interviews of other bloggers – it’s nice to put a personality to the ‘handle’. HG sounds horrendous but it’s good to be made aware of it – thanks!
    #fabfridaypost

  8. 8th July 2016 / 8:21 am

    I didn’t even know such thing as HG existed but nice of you to share your experiences and loved your advice.

    • Double the Monkey Business
      26th July 2016 / 9:21 pm

      I didnt know much about it either, so pleased to help raise a bit of awareness through this guest post 🙂 x

  9. 7th July 2016 / 7:42 pm

    Always nice to find a new blogger – and I am desperate for some meal inspiration so off to follow Culinary Jumble! Thanks for the introduction xxx and for linking up to #coolmumclub

    • Double the Monkey Business
      26th July 2016 / 9:21 pm

      Ah you will love her blog, so many wonderful treats to try out x

  10. 7th July 2016 / 7:25 pm

    I love reading interviews like these, it is always nice to discover new blogs & find out more about the people behind them x

  11. 7th July 2016 / 2:48 pm

    Hi Yvonne and Tracy, I’d never heard of HG until I started reading blogs and I’m not sure if that’s because I went through my two pregnancies a few years ago now.

    One of the best bits of advice ever is to trust your instincts (ditch those books of you are questioning yourself) and never, ever compare! And I had no idea how to hold or change a baby when my had my first baby. That first night my husband had to show me how (he had a sister that was a lot younger than him, so had some baby experience).

    xx

    • Double the Monkey Business
      26th July 2016 / 9:22 pm

      You are so right, never compare. It is all to easy to get worked up about what you are or are not doing x

  12. 7th July 2016 / 6:20 am

    HG sounds utterly dreadful! I am so thankful my pregnancies were all complication free. Lovely to meet a new blogger with this post too!

    • Double the Monkey Business
      26th July 2016 / 9:24 pm

      I agree it sounds dreadful. thanks for commenting xx

  13. Geraldine
    7th July 2016 / 7:08 am

    I really enjoyed reading this. It’s so nice to get to know the person behind the blog and it was especially good to hear about HG as I wonder if I suffered from this now. I was vomiting for the first five months and after that had severe nausea until the birth. I only had two weeks reprieve. Next time I’ll shout louder 🙂 #sharingthebloglove

    • Double the Monkey Business
      26th July 2016 / 9:23 pm

      Oh gosh, it sounds like you had a really hard time too. xx

    • Double the Monkey Business
      26th July 2016 / 9:23 pm

      I hardly slept when they napped either xx

  14. 6th July 2016 / 9:13 pm

    The hyper morning sickness is the worst thing in the world – I haven’t suffered it, only bad morning sickness and it went at 14 weeks but it was truly terrible. The worst is that you can’t enjoy being pregnant and in fact don’t really want to be pregnant just to stop feeling sick – even though of course – you do. So tough, can’t imagine being sick for the nine months. Lovely interview.

    • Double the Monkey Business
      26th July 2016 / 9:24 pm

      Thanks, I cant imagine being sick for that long either, must have been very hard x

  15. Leah Miller
    6th July 2016 / 6:22 pm

    Ah, “Try ginger”, the go to comment for anyone trying to help someone with sickness, no matter how bad!

    I have seen the impact of HG first hand, as my friend suffered so badly, she would pass out from the sickness. I have the utmost sympathy, and can see how it would put some off having another child!

    So interesting to read your story! Lots of love xxx

    • Double the Monkey Business
      26th July 2016 / 9:26 pm

      Oh yes the ‘ginger’ comment is a classic! x

  16. 6th July 2016 / 11:43 am

    Thank you so much Yvonne for letting me share my story! Any publicity for HG is always good!

    • Double the Monkey Business
      26th July 2016 / 9:27 pm

      Lovely to have you on the blog 🙂 xx

  17. 6th July 2016 / 8:26 am

    I’ve never heard of HG before, at least now I know what it is 😉 Loved the story about not knowing how to pick her first baby up. I was too scared to give T a bath when she was a baby, like her, I was fearful of dropping T. My husband had to give our daughter her first bath.

    • 6th July 2016 / 11:41 am

      Hah! Glad I am not the only one! They’re so tiddly, aren’t they?! haha

  18. 6th July 2016 / 6:26 am

    I completely sympathise I suffered too, to the point that I put out 3 ribs from being sick so much with my second daughter. Its a condition that more people need to know about. x

    • 6th July 2016 / 11:42 am

      I think we are getting there are awareness is certainly rising! Long way to go, though!

    • Double the Monkey Business
      1st August 2016 / 8:13 pm

      I am the same, I always read the bio posts too xx

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