HELLP – We are Grandparents

The only thing better than having you as my parents,

is my children having you as their grandparents

Grandparents, they are such an important part of our lives, always there with unconditional love and support.

When I first started to write my blog back in January, I suggested to my parents that they may want to do a guest post.  After all it is not just the sufferer of HELLP Syndrome that struggles with the aftermath.

I thought it would be interesting to hear our HELLP story from a Grandparents perspective

This is their thoughts on what happened four years ago, written by my Mum (A.K.A. Grandma)…

We were both looking forward to becoming Grandparents.  We were amazed to find out Yvonne was expecting twins.

Little did we know what was going to happen….

Our son-in-law, J, called in the early hours of Thursday morning to let us know that Yvonne had given birth to twin boys.

A few hours later, we were on the train down to London.  We checked into the hotel and headed over to the hospital.

J met us at the door of the hospital.  He told us that Yvonne was not in a good way.  We were shocked when we walked into the room.

Yvonne looked tired.  She was pale like marble and appeared to be out of it, not really aware of her surroundings.

At that stage, we didn’t know then that she had HELLP syndrome.  We assumed it was a traumatic birth.  It was an emotional day for both of us.

J spoke to the nursing staff to ask for open visiting for us,  ensuring we could provide additional support.

Between the three of us we took care of the boys that day.

We had not expected the boys to be so small – the scans had indicated they were a lot bigger – and they didn’t have enough clothes and nappies for them, so the next day J rang and asked us to pick up some things from the shop.

We were a little late getting to the hospital that day.  Yvonne and the boys were moved into intensive care, not long after we arrived.  This was a frightening time for everyone.

At this stage, nobody had told us what was happening.  We were relieved when she was moved back to High Dependancy Unit the following day and started to show improvement.

HELLP Syndrome

The next day J called to say that he had questioned the midwife about Yvonne.  This was the first time we heard the words, HELLP syndrome.  We had not heard of it before and were concerned about what it meant.

While we were getting ready, Grandad looked it up.   He was worried when he read how serious this condition was, but didn’t share what he read as he didn’t want me to worry.

We went straight to the hospital.  When we arrived, J explained what HELLP Syndrome was. Shocked and frightened, we were worried about the consequences for Yvonne.  We felt so helpless that the fate of our only child was in the hands of the doctors.  We kept our fingers crossed and hoped she would recover.

What made things so much harder, was watching Bob L in the bilirubin machine, as he was being treated with jaundice.   We were also worried about him too.  He was so unhappy and the only way you could settle him was to let him hold your finger.  It was heartbreaking.  We took turns to be with him, reassuring him that he wasn’t alone.

That night as we left the hospital, we met the kind nurse who had cared for Yvonne that day.  She said: “I admire your daughter’s spirit and determination to over come this serious illness”.

We whole-heartily agreed with her.  We found this conversation very emotional, it confirmed our worst fears for our daughter.  That night we both had a restless night as we realised that we may lose our precious daughter.

Recovery

The next day, when we arrived at the hospital, Yvonne asked if I could help her have a shower.  It was not easy, but we managed to get her into the bathroom.  We tried not to pull on the drips and tubes still attached to her.  I was shocked to see all the bruising and rashes that covered her body.  I joked with her, saying I shouldn’t have to still be showering her at this age.

She was determined to do it even though she was exhausted afterwards.  She hoped it would make her feel better.

The night before we were due to go home, we were thrilled to see an improvement in Yvonne.  We knew she was feeling better, she started complaining about the food!  So we brought her in some treats that we knew she loved.

Then the day came where we were due to leave and go back home.  We were concerned about leaving Yvonne.

It was a very emotional time.  However, we knew she was in good hands.  We were glad she was making a recovery.

We were thrilled when Yvonne called us to say that they had all been discharged.  It was such a relief.

Over the next two weeks we were in daily contact, we wanted to give them a chance to settle in as a new family. So a couple of weeks later we returned, when J went back to work.

We feel incredibly fortunate that we still have our beautiful daughter with us.  We love being Grandparents to our two fantastic grandsons.

Grandchildren make the world a little softer, a little kinder, a little warmer

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40 Comments

  1. 28th October 2016 / 10:18 am

    This is lovely. I can’t imagine how emotional it must be seeing your own baby become a mommy, and then to nearly lose her.. it must have been a very difficult and strange time, such potential tragedy out of such happiness. So glad you recovered.

  2. 30th August 2016 / 10:39 pm

    Wow! I had to go back and read the other posts, I had no idea what HELLP was, I had an idea, but girl, you have been through a lot. And getting to know you now, I would never imagine! Thank God for your family you are still here. What a fighter! Good for you, speaking out, there are others out there that need your fight to help them get through this too! xx

    • Double the Monkey Business
      6th September 2016 / 7:12 pm

      Oh thanks hun, it was a tough time. Thankfully came out the other side with my family at my side 🙂 x

  3. 6th July 2016 / 8:42 pm

    As a fellow HELLP survivor, this gave me goosebumps, believe me… My hubby researched HELLP when I got my diagnosis (after acute pre-e) and obviously didn’t share the prognosis with me. Myself and my daughter were extremely fortunate, not least due to the fantastic NHS staff. So glad your journey ended happily. #bloggerclubuk

    • Double the Monkey Business
      26th July 2016 / 9:26 pm

      I have to say all credit to the NHS staff as well, I feel very fortunate that we are all here safe and well x

  4. 6th July 2016 / 11:24 am

    This is a great idea for a post, I actually cried reading it. It must have been so hard to have seen you and the boys in intensive care, especially after the excited anticipation waiting for their arrival. I’m so glad that they managed to see you moved out of Intensive Care whilst they were still in London, and got to hold the boys. Food is always so bad in hospitals, I’m not surprised you were asking for treats! Thanks so much for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire x

    • Double the Monkey Business
      26th July 2016 / 9:28 pm

      I made them get me stuff from the little Italian restaurant nearby, it was amazing 🙂 It was a hard time for them and I was so lucky to have them there to support me x

  5. 6th July 2016 / 3:59 am

    This is such an emotional post. It made me cried! You are so lucky to have such great parents who are always there for you. It is a very interesting take from a parent perspective. They are so so lovely. Thank you so much for linking up with us on #FabFridayPost xx

  6. 2nd July 2016 / 11:34 pm

    This is lovely and interesting. It is good to hear other perspectives sometimes about these things, and grandparents are often overlooked, but actually it must be a terrible time for them when there are complications, as both their daughter & grandchild is at risk. #anythinggoes

    • Double the Monkey Business
      3rd July 2016 / 8:18 pm

      It’s so true, the grandparents are often overlooked yet are in the middle of it, worrying about everyone 🙂 x

  7. The Tale of Mummyhood
    2nd July 2016 / 2:15 pm

    This moved me to tears, such a strong family.

    #fortheloveofBLOG

    • Double the Monkey Business
      3rd July 2016 / 8:20 pm

      thanks for reading 🙂 x

  8. 2nd July 2016 / 10:10 am

    This is a lovely post and I’m so glad you all had a healthy outcome. This has inspired me to see if my Mum would like to write a post for me – she was a birth partner when my son was born (albeit in the background while Daddy did a sterling hand holding job!) #fortheloveofblog

    • Double the Monkey Business
      3rd July 2016 / 8:22 pm

      Oh you should, I found it really interesting to hear their side of the story xxx

    • Double the Monkey Business
      3rd July 2016 / 8:26 pm

      They are the best 🙂 x

  9. 30th June 2016 / 8:37 pm

    Oh gosh this must have been so hard on you Mum – to watch your baby in such a bad way. I can’t imagine it. And then to worry about your grandchildren at the same time. It must have been awful. I’m so glad this story has a happy ending. It’s a great idea to hear the story told from your point of view. Thanks so much for joining us at #BloggerClubUK x

    • Double the Monkey Business
      3rd July 2016 / 8:32 pm

      I think it was, I was really pleased that she wanted to share their story 🙂 x

  10. 29th June 2016 / 6:04 am

    How lovely it is to hear from a Grandparent’s perspective. I really enjoyed reading the post. Congratulations again on becoming a Grandparent. Yvonne, I loved your first line – what a beautiful sentiment about grandparents. #bigpinklink

    • Double the Monkey Business
      3rd July 2016 / 8:37 pm

      thank you hun xx

  11. 28th June 2016 / 3:53 pm

    Oh it must have been such a worrying time! My mum recently said to me “He’s YOUR baby, but you are MY baby!” when I was getting grumpy with her being over helpful :-p It’s easy to forget! #bigpinklink x

    • Double the Monkey Business
      28th June 2016 / 8:41 pm

      That is exactly what my mum always says to me! As a parent I can understand that now 🙂 x

  12. 27th June 2016 / 2:06 pm

    Aw congratulations on becoming Grandparents. My parents say it is the most precious gift, all the joy and when they misbehave you can give them back ha x

    • Double the Monkey Business
      27th June 2016 / 7:00 pm

      Oh yes it is all of the best bits 🙂 My parents love being grandparents, and the kids adore them xxx

    • Mum x
      27th June 2016 / 7:08 pm

      Thank you, we love being grandparents to our two little boys

  13. 27th June 2016 / 11:50 am

    Such a good idea for a guest post. It must have been such a worry for your parents but it’s obvious that they were here to support you as much as they could. Well done to them, your this post is the best tribute you could give them!
    #bigpinklink

    • Double the Monkey Business
      27th June 2016 / 7:02 pm

      They were (and still are to be honest) a brilliant support and I love that they featured on my blog 🙂 x

    • 2nd July 2016 / 7:28 am

      Wonderful! You are very lucky to have them helping you. #fortheloveofBLOG

      • Double the Monkey Business
        3rd July 2016 / 8:26 pm

        We are very lucky indeed thanks hun xxx

  14. Fran Back With A Bump
    27th June 2016 / 1:44 pm

    This is lovely and nice to hear from the grandparents perspective. Thanks for joining #marvmondays

    • Double the Monkey Business
      27th June 2016 / 7:01 pm

      Thanks hun x

  15. 27th June 2016 / 9:55 am

    This is such a great post. It’s so important to realise that you never stop being a Mum (and Dad) and so when your daughter gives birth you are worried about HER welfare as well as that of your new grandchild(ren). This must have been such a worrying time for you but I hope that the rest of your journey as grandparents is full of joy. 🙂 #MarvMondays

    • Double the Monkey Business
      27th June 2016 / 7:03 pm

      Absolutely hun, I think the rest of their journey of being grandparents have been mainly cuddles and laughter so that has made up for the worry 🙂 x

    • Mum x
      27th June 2016 / 7:06 pm

      It is very much full of joy
      You never stop being Mum and Dad

  16. 27th June 2016 / 8:39 am

    What a lovely post – I cannot wait to be a grandparent but hoping my daughter waits a little bit longer first

    • Mum x
      27th June 2016 / 7:04 pm

      It’s the best feeling in the world

    • Double the Monkey Business
      27th June 2016 / 7:04 pm

      Thanks xx

    • Mum x
      27th June 2016 / 7:03 pm

      Thank you
      We love being grandparents

    • Double the Monkey Business
      27th June 2016 / 7:05 pm

      Thanks hun xx

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