Beauty Blog Wales – #parentingscoop

Welcome to #parentingscoop

This is a new guest series for Double the Monkey Business, and I am so chuffed that my very first guest star is the fabulous Nia from Beauty Blog Wales.  Nia is a fabulous lady, and I am very lucky to have her as a blogging friend.  She is always there to listen and offer advice to other bloggers.

Nia offers incredible tips over on her blog, on all things beauty related:  Please pop by to say hello and check out what she has to say.

Over to you Nia…

Nia at Beauty Blog Wales speaks to #parentingscoop

Bio – Nia at Beauty Blog Wales

My name is Nia Patten, I live in Cardiff with my husband (who’s a carpenter). I’m a dentist. We have two daughters, the young one is 5 months and the elder is nearly 4 years old.

Tell us about your pregnancy

It took us a long time to get pregnant with my first.  3 years of dedicated calendar watching and disappointment until the month I least expected it to happen, it just did. Phew!

The pregnancy was fine, not enjoyable, but zero problems until the last week when we discovered the girl was breech.

One ECV later she was pointing the right way and I was in labour.  

My second pregnancy wasn’t quite as smooth going. Number two was an IVF baby. We tried for a year and a half until I decided I had had enough of this disappointment malarkey, it was time to ask for help.

2 iuis, 1 IVF and 1 ICSI later we had our big fat positive. The stress had been enormous, and the positive result gave no relief. I counted the days till the second trimester safe zone and checked my miscarriage statistics on the daily.

Then at 11 weeks, disaster! I had some bleeding. I ran to the hospital. “There’s no point in scanning you, you will just have to wait and how it goes, try and relax” said the doctor. I ended up paying privately for a scan the next day, I was so anxious. Apparently there was a clot outside the amniotic sac. The baby was alive and visibly kicking on the screen.

The stress didn’t really improve. At the 20 week scan they couldn’t locate the babies stomach bubble, 4 scans later the sonographer informed us that there was definitely something wrong it was likely that the baby was missing the connection between its mouth and stomach. We were referred to Fetal Medicine for further tests. I was in bits, I shouldn’t have googled it, oesophageal atresia as its called is associated with syndromes and other abnormalities in 50% of cases.

There was only an 8% chance of normality after a finding of no stomach. Lying in the sonography room of the Fetal medicine department with my heart in my mouth, the scan took about 45 mins. At the end of it the lady said “Do you know, she looks lovely” she meant normal. It’s the news I hadn’t let myself imagine I’d hear.

It was wonderful.  

I felt sad for the other ladies waiting with grim faces at that clinic, it’s the last place anyone wants to be. The rest of the pregnancy was normal and blissfully uneventful. I could finally relax. 

I had to push hard to be allowed a home birth.

In the end everything went to plan.

What was your one essential item for your hospital bag and why?

I didn’t go to the hospital for either of my baby’s birth. I had a bag packed but it stayed where it was.

What item did you pack in your hospital bag that you didn’t use?

See number 5!

Where did you give birth? Did you have any complications?

I gave birth at home for both of my babies. Fortunately my births have been “easy” and positive. I found being at home and mobile relaxing and needed no pain relief apart from tens with my first.

My second labour was so quick I barely had time to make it to the bed and undress. The midwife was present, but only just. It was fab.

What were the first few weeks like after giving birth?

The first weeks with a new baby are a baffling time, especially the first. The thing that knocked me is the lack of recovery time you get after the labour. You barely have time to take a breath before you have to master the art of feeding the baby. It’s hard!

Do you have any advice for new parents?

Don’t worry about what anyone else tells you, go with your gut. If you want to spend a week on your own with babe cuddled up in bed do it! The rest of the world can wait.

If you were to go through pregnancy again, what would you do differently?

I probably would have taken a bit more time of work at the end, I could have been more self indulgent.

What is your funniest parenting story?

My daughter is always making us laugh with her comments and misunderstandings.

The day she asked me “Whobody’s a huper sero?”was a good one.

My husband and I  still chuckle about my second labour. My husband was bathing my elder daughter at the time. I was pacing the landing on my own waiting for the midwife when my waters went, I was gripped with panic and the urge to push.

I screamed.

My husband looked out of the bathroom and thought to himself “oh dear, Nia’s lost control of her bladder” and just stood there looking at me with pity while I struggled not to give birth into my trousers.

It was pretty ridiculous.

Nia at Beauty Blog Wales speaks to #parentingscoop

Thanks Double the Monkey Business for letting me tell my story!

Where to find Nia, Beauty Blog Wales:

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Thanks so much for taking part Nia.  Thank you for sharing your incredible story with us.  Great advice: “If you want to spend a week on your own with babe cuddled up in bed do it”.   I wish I had paid attention to that in those first few weeks.

Are you interested in taking part in the next guest series?  If so either comment below or drop me am email at  For more information on #parentingscoop, visit here

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  1. May 18, 2016 / 7:02 am

    Loved reading this! I nearly spat my coffee out reading ‘struggled not to give birth in my trousers’!! So lovely to hear a happy ending to a long emotional journey to motherhood X p.s. I would love to take part in your guest series if you will have me. X

    • Double the Monkey Business
      May 18, 2016 / 7:31 am

      Yes absolutely. I would love that 🙂 xxx

    • Double the Monkey Business
      May 21, 2016 / 7:25 pm

      Thanks for reading 🙂 x

  2. May 18, 2016 / 6:24 pm

    What a lovely happy ending to a long journey to Nia’s second – I can only being to imagine how stressful and emotional the second pregnancy must have been. And that’s quite a birth story too!
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    • Double the Monkey Business
      May 21, 2016 / 7:22 pm

      It is a brilliant start to my new guest series that is for sure. x

  3. May 18, 2016 / 6:27 pm

    Hahaha Nia your husbands comment on baby #2 is too funny but glad you didnt give birth with your trousers still on lol.

    Lovely series, cant wait to read more
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    • Double the Monkey Business
      May 21, 2016 / 7:21 pm

      Thanks for reading 🙂 xx

  4. May 18, 2016 / 8:51 pm

    Loved reading this. So glad to hear that all was well on your fetal medicine scan – what a horribly worrying time that must have been for you. That advice about spending a week in bed cuddled up to your baby is good – I did just that second time around and it was amazing – would definitely recommend. So lovely to find out more about you Nia. I’d love to take part in the guest post series too Yvonne if you’d be happy to have me 🙂
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    • Double the Monkey Business
      May 21, 2016 / 7:21 pm

      I wish I had cuddled up too! I would love you to take part Louise, that would be fab! xxx

  5. May 18, 2016 / 9:07 pm

    Such good advice, staying cuddled up in bed with babe! You don’t feel like you can request that with your first. I think by your second or third you feel a bit stronger saying what you actually want. It’s a beautiful post Nia, and Yvonne, I absolutely love reading about birthing stories, lots of love xx
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    • Double the Monkey Business
      May 21, 2016 / 7:20 pm

      I certainly didnt feel like I could, if I had my time again I would! If you ever fancy taking part Leah, let me know 🙂 x

    • Double the Monkey Business
      May 21, 2016 / 7:20 pm

      ha ha I know me too, that is the best bit 🙂 x

  6. May 19, 2016 / 12:16 am

    How lovely and interesting! So nice that everything worked out so happily after the concerns with the second pregnancy! I’m also in the super fast second labour club – in fact mine was a home birth that was not planned, it just happened too fast to go anywhere!

    • Double the Monkey Business
      May 21, 2016 / 7:19 pm

      Crikey, that is fast! My mum was also in that club. Super quick and no time to think.. x

    • Double the Monkey Business
      May 21, 2016 / 7:19 pm

      Thanks, she is my go-to blog for make up tips! x

  7. May 19, 2016 / 9:37 am

    Hi Nia, nice to meet you and to know a bit of yourself! Had to laugh at your husband’s comments! The things men say!

    Great idea for a guest series, Yvonne!

    • Double the Monkey Business
      May 21, 2016 / 7:18 pm

      Thanks hun x

  8. May 19, 2016 / 12:11 pm

    Oh lol the story at the end is crazy – the second birth does happen a lot faster. I think it’s great for people to have home births if they want it. It sounds like Nia had really positive experiences with them. x
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    • Double the Monkey Business
      May 21, 2016 / 7:17 pm

      I have heard that a few times, that they second birth is a lot quicker. I guess your body is more prepared for what is to come. x

  9. May 21, 2016 / 4:26 pm

    Lovely to get to know Nia. What a story from trying to conceive through to almost giving births in your trews! This made me emotional and it made me laugh, thank you #fortheloveofBLOG

    • Double the Monkey Business
      May 21, 2016 / 7:14 pm

      ha ha I know! It is an incredible parenting journey so far. Thanks for reading 🙂 xx

  10. May 21, 2016 / 8:47 pm

    Wow what a lot of ups and downs, I’ll be checking out Nias blog! Everyones story , experience and journey to motherhood is so beautiful to read and after all the worry, how wonderful to have two perfect home births. I’m a real advocate for them. I’d love to take part in this series also if you’d have me? The blogging community is so supportive and it’s been lovely to get a glimpse into Nias through your site. X

    • Double the Monkey Business
      May 22, 2016 / 12:03 pm

      I would love you take part! That would be brilliant x

  11. May 22, 2016 / 2:48 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing. Birthing stories are so individuals aren’t they. It is something that no one can take away from you. It is so very personal. I also had a home birth for my second one. It was great – everything went according to plan at the end.

    Thank you for linking up with us on #FabFridayPost x
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    • Double the Monkey Business
      May 27, 2016 / 5:02 pm

      I find it fascinating, everyone has an incredible story. Giving birth really is an amazing thing x

  12. May 25, 2016 / 7:48 am

    What a brilliant idea for a guest series!! I love hearing other people’s birth stories, and this one was really touching, from the struggles to conceive, to the worry over the little ones stomach, and to hearing that both births were a lovely positive experience!! Seeing the 2 smiling girls at the end was lovely!! Great advice about just snuggling up with the baby too, I can remember desperately not wanting visitors, but my husband saying yes to everyone who wanted to come-I wish I’d went with what I wanted, and had asked everyone to wait a few weeks until I was ready!

    • Double the Monkey Business
      May 27, 2016 / 3:17 pm

      I didnt stop visitors either, if I had my time again I would and give myself some peace and quiet 🙂 x

  13. May 26, 2016 / 5:56 pm

    I can’t believe that the doctor wouldn’t scan you at 11 weeks – unfortunately I’ve had a similar experience, it’s just awful to be made to wait like that but thank goodness all was ok. It sounds like you have been on a real rollercoaster in order to become a Mum. I totally agree with your parenting advice for new Mums – go with your gut instinct! Thanks for sharing with us on #fortheloveofBLOG
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    • Double the Monkey Business
      May 27, 2016 / 3:12 pm

      Totally agree, go with your gut instincts 🙂 x

    • Double the Monkey Business
      June 1, 2016 / 3:35 pm

      Thank you! x

  14. May 29, 2016 / 2:49 am

    Fab post! I love hearing about other mums and bloggers experiences like these. It sounds like your second labour was such a close call to having baby on the carpet there and then. Hubs sounds hilarious 😉 Thanks for sharing this on #MarvMondays. Hope to see more of these posts! Emily

    • Double the Monkey Business
      June 1, 2016 / 3:31 pm

      Thanks for reading Nia’s story 🙂 xx

    • Double the Monkey Business
      June 10, 2016 / 12:36 pm

      Thank you for commenting hun xx

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