Now: A Working Mummy

As the end of my maternity leave started to rear its ugly head, my heart was heavy with dread.  I really didn’t want to leave the boys, it took me so long to recover from HELLP that it took forever for me to get into the swing of things… well the fact I was recovering, along with the inevitable sleep deprivation that comes with being a new mummy.

So I was thrilled, to say the least, when an opportunity came up to move to Germany, meaning we could afford for me to stay at home for a little bit longer.

That was a few years ago now and in the summer of last year, I decided to look for a new job.  I was thrilled when I got an exciting new role, writing and editing for a newspaper.

However, I was worried:

  1. How was I going to fit everything in with a job as well
  2. I felt guilty about working and ‘leaving’ the boys
  3. How will I cope if the boys are up in the night and I am shattered in the day.
  4. How on earth was I going to get us all out the door early enough in the morning to get them to kindergarten and me to work EVERY DAY?????
  5. I feared that my brain-cells had depreciated to the point of non-existence, after 3 years of doing nothing more taxing than singing the alphabet and counting to 10!

I can’t tell you how much I admire the mummy’s who go back to work sooner, hats off to you all – I think you are all amazing!  It was hard enough going back when I did, and the boys were just about to turn three.

Six months on I can now reflect back on my fears:

  1. Everything does just fit in, well maybe not everything but the important things are still done every day, like giving my boys cuddles and reading them books.  Housework can wait, or at least it can until it is really driving you really crazy!
  2. Mummy guilt comes with the territory, I am yet to meet a mummy that doesn’t have this, so if I didn’t feel guilty about working it would, no doubt, be about something else!
  3. Tiredness:  That is what coffee and biscuits are for!
  4. Getting out the door in the morning is still impossible, we are often rushing and my neighbours can usually see me rushing out the door in the morning, telling the boys to stop standing in the middle of the garden to watch the grass grow and quickly get into the car. They don’t listen of course.
  5. As for my brain-cells… well you may have to ask my colleagues.

So what is the best thing about being back at work, well I do think it makes me a happier mummy, I get to do something that is just about me.. that and my fabulous colleagues love cake….and I very much like cake!

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9 Comments

  1. 21st February 2016 / 3:16 pm

    This touches on so many concerns I had going back to work after 8 weeks. THINKING about all the tasks at hand is much more overwhelming than when you actually do them. It’s truly amazing the amount of things a Mom can do in one day. You never know what you are capable of until you try!
    *malissa

    • 25th February 2016 / 7:49 pm

      Very true. Once you get into a routine it just becomes normal (with a few stressful moments being late thrown in for good measure) x

  2. Becky, Cuddle Fairy
    9th February 2016 / 9:41 am

    We all have mommy guilt no matter what we choose to do. I’m a SAH mom & have mommy guilt too. You have to go with what works best for you & the family. There’s definitely a juggling act to be done for all mom’s. Best of luck heading back to work! Thanks so much for linking up with #bloggerclubuk xx

    • 9th February 2016 / 8:50 pm

      Oh yes mummy guilt kicks in from the start! I think whatever mums decide it is just what works for them. I have always admired those that went back to work early, yet had friends say they don’t know how I stayed at home for so long. So long as the family is all happy that is the important thing 🙂 x

  3. 3rd February 2016 / 7:30 pm

    haha at the cake! I’m glad it sounds like it is all working out for you.Thanks for linking to #PickNMix

  4. randommusings29
    3rd February 2016 / 3:56 pm

    Your job sounds great, definitely worth going back for! I’m glad it’s going well and you have found ways to fit in all the important stuff. Coffee and biscuits is a good answer to most things 🙂 #bloggerclubuk
    Debbie

    • 3rd February 2016 / 4:08 pm

      Don’t forget the cake 😉 xxx

  5. 29th January 2016 / 12:06 pm

    It can definitely be quite a juggling act! I remembered being so anxious when I first started work but once you get into a routine, it actually becomes quite a breeze! And there’s nothing like cake to make everything better. Thanks for sharing with #abitofeverything

    • 30th January 2016 / 9:47 am

      Cake always helps, then wine in the evening 🙂 x

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